Learn To Listen

To follow up on my response to a reader asking about the CONS of tough love:

Another CON of tough love is ... human nature made it so that people are created not to like unsolicited and unwanted sermons ... and we always hate what we hear from others. People have always that resistance to change.

But seeing your parents for instance who are suffering silently looking at you miserable ... doesn't mean you can't learn from the tough love they sent you.  Try to listen ...  and imbibe the salient nuggets of what they are telling you. Don't ignore them just because you feel frustrated or offended.  Or you resent how straightforward the way they say their commentary on how you mess up your life.  Take the weighty and pertinent points of what they say ,,, and take them into consideration.

Remember you made the problem yourself ... not them. The fact of the matter is ... they should be furious for being so cavalier and you DRAG them into your mess.