Fixation At Genital Stage

The genital stage is the fifth stage of psychosexual development that begins with the onset of puberty and continues to adulthood - 13 years to death. At this time, individuals start to become sexually mature and begin to explore their sexual feelings and desires more maturely and responsibly.

According to Freud, this is when an individual begins to have a strong sexual interest in the opposite sex. And, if the stage is successful, this is when folks develop loving and search for life-long relationships with someone of the opposite sex.

In classical psychoanalytic theory, the final stage of psychosexual development commenced in puberty when the Oedipus complex has been fully resolved and erotic interest and activity are focused on bodily contact with a sexual partner.

1. The Genital Stage - Freud believed that with the start of puberty comes a reawakened, active libido and sexual attraction. Freud theorized that as opposed to the phallic stage, which was focused on self-pleasure, the pleasure during the genital stage is focused on heterosexual pleasure.

According to Freud, the genital stage reappears along with the Oedipus complex. The genital stage coincides with the phallic stage, in that in both stages their main concern is the genitalia; however, in the former, it is an unconscious process while in the genital stage, it is now conscious.

A. Genital Stage task -  The genital stage commences when all the libidinal urges and aggressive drives made a grand comeback. If you remember in the phallic stage, (the Oedipal and Elektra complex) the challenge for the child is centered on their resolution. On the other hand, the source of sexual pleasure in the genital stage has broadened and widened and has stepped outside of the family triangle (mother and father). The individual has now expanded his/her horizon and saw sexual and love interests outside of their home.

At age 3-6, if the child unknowingly grows fondness and becomes attracted to the same-sex parent ... then homosexual relationships are highly probable. However, the slant and the direction of this viewpoint and how we understood the phallic stage, become contradictory and incompatible with what we primarily believed the phallic stage entails.

D. Carry-over behaviors in the Genital stage - This stage starts when the libido reemerges. It is likened to a zombie who has newly risen from the grave. The onset of puberty causes the libido to become active once again. During the final stage of psychosexual development, the individual develops a strong sexual interest in the opposite sex. This stage begins during puberty but last throughout the rest of a person's life.

Fixation at the genital stage (isn't it obvious?) As you might guess from the name, this stage involves fixation on the penis. Freud proposed that for young boys, this meant obsession with their own penis. For young girls, this meant fixation on the fact that they don't have a penis, an experience he called “penis envy.”

Is masturbation a fixation? It should ... since the man or the woman's focus is centered on the penis ... then manipulating their genitals made it so. You were stuck on this activity ... and making it a habit like doing it every day is more like an addiction.  There are people I know who could not sleep until they did it. They viewed it as a pleasure-seeking and anxiety-reducing activity. Continued use of it - is like taking a sleep aid to settle you down.

Masturbation fixation is a disorder that occurs when masturbation becomes his way of life ... it becomes a permanent fixture of his sexual repertoire, it becomes an outlet and a refuge when things go wrong ... and he chooses masturbation  ...  even though normal sexual partners are available. 

Experts believed that excessive masturbation can lead to social isolation,  staying home for lengthy periods of time, having no communication with family, acquaintances or friends, and/or willfully avoiding any contact with other humans when those opportunities do arise.

Masturbation is also an egocentric sense of satisfaction, where sex is supposed to be a give-and-take activity ... the person is more satisfied doing it himself than sharing it with anybody. These are also red flags ... because they could mean failure and disappointment with real-life partners. 

Masturbation can also lead to dependence on various sex toys and other masturbatory equipment in order to achieve orgasm.

Idiom of the Day

Let's start using idioms or idiomatic expressions when we write. When idioms are used, it adds color and texture to language by creating images that convey meanings beyond those of the individual words that make them up. An idiom can be very colorful and make a 'picture' in our minds. It also shows the writer's familiarity with English. When you want to make your writing sound more conversational, including idioms can give your writing a more relaxed tone.

Idioms allow us to say a lot with few words. Idioms amplify your messages in a way that draws your readers in and helps awaken their senses. It adds dynamism and character to otherwise stale writing. They make your writing less monotonous, making your readers think you are smart and knowledgeable. All the while ... you only clothe your writing with elaborate idioms to create an impact... saying too much with less. 

To perfect your English, you really need to become confident in using idioms and knowing the difference between breaking a leg and pulling someone's leg. So the idiom of the day is:

IDIOM: Back against the wall.

MEANING: It means that you have been put in a situation that is unfavorable and the only way out is to either put up a fight or be defeated.

ORIGIN: The phrase originates from a situation when a person has encountered a fight with his back against the wall. Possibly in the military, and while he cannot get attacked from the back, he does not have a way of moving forward too without facing the enemy. The only option is to resist in the best possible way and fight. The phrase dates from the 1500s.

USING IT IN A SENTENCE: John was fired from his job ... and looking for a job with only a high school diploma to back him up ... he finds himself with his back against the wall.

Herlene Budol Apologizes

 

Herlene Budol explains but the netizens can't hold their punches: Here is the sampling,

• Marilyn Reyes

  Ang mga salita ng isang beauty queen ay malinaw at may laman salitang may manners...kaso ang mga salita mong pinili gamitin pang kalye........tandaan mo n ndi yan show ni kuya wil

  

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• Sag Oppura

  Last pageant mo na yon...Di yan para syo. Hindi ganyan magsalita ang tunay nga may beauty at brain. May poise, disyente, at very professional. Hindi parang nakipag usap lang ng ka tropa sa Kanto pag sumagot sa judge.Marami ka pang pwedeng puntahan. Bata kpa, maraming lugar nga kung saan bagay ka. Hwg mo lang ipilit ang sarili mo sa lugar nga di kya ng utak at ng breeding mo. Aim for high but not sa mga pageants. Good luck Ms Hipon. God bless you. Payong kapatid lang tong mga sinasabi namin.

  

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• Merilyn Fradejas Villamor  · 

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  Nakakalungkot man, pero may mga bagay talaga na hindi dapat pinipilit lalo nat alam naman natin na hindi talaga para sa atin 

  

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• JohnRev Ybat

  Dapat nung nang pagent na assess mo na sarili mo.. Hindi biro ang mandala nang pangalan nang Pinas Mapa International man I hindi. Malalaman mo naman yan e.. Sa unang sabak.. Kita mo mnga dati sumasali inaaral ang mnga bawat QnA nang mnga nagdaang pagent. Kaya di biro Mas Lalo sa atin e avid fan tayo nang mnga ganyan Pugent Laban sa Laban.. Kaya d mo sila masisi.. May Mas better na plan sayo d Lang sumakto sayo

  

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• Ma Ellen Escueta Bedes

  Ms. Harlen Budol, maganda Ka, siguro di lang na develop Sayo pakipag usap sa wikang English. Siguro kailangan mo pa I improve Ang Sarili mo. Mg aral Ka ulit. Balikan mo Kun saan Ka Ng kamali at Doon Ka bumangon..wag Ka mawalan Ng pag asa..

  

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• Irene Hombre

  D nmn kz pang beauty queen saguran nya..Pang tv host lng..

  

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• Ai Sampag De Borja  · 

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  Okay lang Yan! Lahat naman nagkakamali! Hayaan nyo syang maitama Ang pagkakamali nya puro kc kayo HUSGA! 

  Paano xia matototo kung hnd xia magkakamali? Wag nyo xia husgahan na dahil lang sa pagkakamali nya bigyan xia ng chance para maitama at matoto! Hnd ko cnabing Tama Yung ginawa nya Ang point ko wag natin xia i down o ipagtabuyan dahil lang sa Isang pagkakamali nya! Opinion ko lng po. 

  GO LANG HERLEN AKA HIPON WAG KANG SUSUKO DAHIL LANG SA ISANG PAGKAKAMALI MO NEXTIME GALINGAN AT SERYUSOHIN! 

  LOVE YOU! 

  

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• 살젤로

  To quit is not the best thing to do. Kung gusto mo talaga yan, you need to accept criticisms at umpisahan mong disiplinahin ang sarili mo. No need maging fluent sa English kung yan ang kinababahala mo. Tama at maayos lang na sagot kailangan mong aralin. Sana you'll change for the better version of you.

  

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• Christine Maderazo

  Start reading books. Educate yourself. Beauty Queen comes with grace and intelligence. At lahat nman yan ay natututunan. Pero kung aatupagin mo lang ay kabakyaan,wala talaga mangyayari sayo. Marami nmang career,puede kang model,artista.

  

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• Christy Christy

  sa buhay ng tao my mga oras na kailangan idaan natin sa biro,,pero sa mga ganyang seryosong kompitisyonseryosohin naton lalo nat ikaw ang ang representative,,,lahat tayo may mga pangarap na gustong maabot kaya nga dapat natin ayusin at galingan..maraming pang kumpitisyon darating maaring di para sayo ngayon ,,learn from your experience to become more better...mgtyaga ng may kasama pananalig sa panginoon ,godbless you ms.hipon

  

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• Janice P. Balbutin

  I love you herlene not as beauty queen, we love you for being true to yourself just focus on the things na para sayo talaga, I think pageant isn't your line

  

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• Mary Ann Romano Nimer

  Hindi nya siniseryoso Ang mga pagkakataon ibinibigay sa knya, may pagkakataon para makipaglokohan pero may mga pagkakataon din na kelangan magseryoso sa mga bagay na gusto mo ma win sa buhay mo, kng gusto nya ung gnagawa nya dpat paghirapan at seryosohin nya wag ung para xang engot sa stage, ginagawa nyang katatawanan Ang sarili nya tpos ngaun iiyak sa soc.med. magsosorry hays buhay artista nga nman, tpos na kumbaga the damage has been done.

  

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• JD David

  They spent thousands sa retoke and retoke, bakit di sya bigyan ng mga training para magsalita and sumagot ng maayos. Simple question hindi nya maintindihan

  

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• Chris Tie

  Jusme ginawa b nmng joke ung Q&A

  

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• Liz Mangao  · 

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  Ok lng Ms Herlene nxt focus ka na lng ulit

  

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• Jude G Quebral

  Masyadong confident sa sarili- feeling close nya lahat ng nakakausap nya, feeling nya ka level nya lahat ng tao, pati ba naman pagring ng fon eh pinakialaman, naku itigil na yan kay Harlene Budol aka Hipon baka magtrending pa yung teleserye nya sa Network na yun.

  

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• Gladys Moreno  · 

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  Sadya.. Last mo na yan! Mahiya hiya ka naman.

  

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• Michael Guevarra

  at isa pa ang layo ng sagot sa tanong eih

  huwag maging trying hard

  hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon

  eih ipapasok mo sa sagot ang life experience mo .para ang nang yari kasi humihingi ka lagi ng simpatya sa bawat sagot mo eih

  

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• Michael Guevarra

  dapat kasi be profesional

  hindi sa lahat ng pagkakataon dala ang pagka kengkoy

  beauty pageant ang sinalihan mo teh hindi comedy or talk show..

  

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• Tina Caratao Cenizal

  Neng wag ka na muna kase mag pageant . Mag aral ka muna ng tamang pagsasalita at pag sagot sa mga formal na tanong . Di kase. Mag artista ka muna be at mag hire ng tamng pagsasalita. . nasa yo na ganda . Tangkad at pag rampa

  

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