Count Your Blessings

 

Count your blessings!

1. Are you not aware that your FAMILY is the envy of any FRACTURED and FRAGMENTED household?

2. Are you unaware that your HOUSE is a fantasy of any VAGRANTS and the HOMELESS? 

3. Are you unaware that your being in pink of HEALTH is on the wishlist of every SICK and INFIRMED? 

4. And most of all have you realized that your WORK is the jealousy of the JOBLESS and the UNEMPLOYED ... and those who were LAID OFF?

Be GRATEFUL with what you have ... and thank God you were BLESSED!

The Enabler Around us

Sa lahat ng ating pagkamali, may mga tao sa ating paligid acting like pompom girls or cheerleaders.  Sila yong mga ENABLERS - to make it blunt - kahit mali yong ginagawa mo sila yong mga knights in shining armour mo who will defend you thru thick and thin. The "enablers" are giving the illusion to you that what you are doing is right kasi feeling mo ... may kakampi ka. Hindi naman sila kakampi kung mali di ba?

Pero huwag ka ... ang iba diyan sulsol lang sulsol dahil gusto lang nilang babagsak ka. Di ba sa mga bisyo ganyan, akala mo kaibigan ... naghahanap lang pala ng karamay. Sira na ang mga buhay nila ... kaya isa kang hangal na naniwala naman. Masakit isipin pero wala silang ni katiting na love sa yo ...  all they want is for you to fail at masakit ding isipin mas mahal mo sila at pinaniwalaan kaysa sa mga taong tunay na nagmamahal sa iyo.

Gatong sila nang gatong ... ano ang pagkaiba nila sa pagiging "kunsintidor"? "Okay lang ang manigarilyo ... wala namang nakatingin." "Manghiram ka ng pera ... keri lang." "Mag-quit ka sa trabaho ... sasabihin ko kailangan mong magpahinga." Sa 24 hours na ikaw ay nakahilata ... sa lagay na yan kailangan mo pang magpahinga?

Bills ... Bills ... Bills

Talking about self- reliance, isang motivation para sa mga bagong parents para huwag tatamad-tamad o urong-sulong kung magtrabaho or hindi.

Gumawa kayo ng checklist para sa bills na dapat bayaran ... at listahan ng mga basic needs sa bahay na dapat bilhin. If that is not enough motivation .... tell! Kung ayaw mong gumalaw para maghanap ng trabaho ... decision mo yan.  Basta huwag kang sisi ng sisi sa iba na wala namang kinalaman sa decision mo.

When Telling A Lie Becomes Normal

There is something I learned about people telling a LIE.  If they have done it before chances are he will do it again. The temptation and the thrill of fibbing are there ...until dishonesty becomes a habit. They feel falsehood becomes a necessity ... it becomes a normal part of their bodily function like breathing is.

It just pains me to see someone who is compulsive to lie ...  never felt terrible about themselves and what they do.

Lies Hurt

I can't help it.  When I catch somebody telling a lie, it makes me question the 100 stories he told me ... what percentage of them were lies? 

I would instead be told the TRUTH ... (well it may HURT a little) but LIES will hurt till the memory has not been forgotten.

An HONEST BRAVE man for me is somebody who is straight-forward to tell me regardless of how painful the TRUTH is.  And the DISHONEST COWARD is somebody wearing a mask taking solace and refuge in DECEPTION and FALSEHOOD.

Short Circuit

I am not UPSET ... that you lied to me.

I am UPSET ... because from now on I will not trust you anymore.

I am SORRY ... that you don't like my HONESTY

But to be fair ... I don't like your LIES either.

Life Is Simple

Life is simple, but like in a soap opera, complicated-minded people make a straightforward narrative, COMPLEX. They turned the simple storyline into a convoluted script full of TWISTS and TURNS.

Life is not complicated (the way I see it) - people are! When we start separating the GOOD from the BAD and knowing which ones are good and which are wrong and eventually we choose the good ... life becomes simple.

So if you don't have money, why make your life complicated by borrowing money when you don't have the means to pay for them! This is getting more than ridiculous!

Simple Is Not Complicated

Making life SIMPLE is easy ... and so is making life COMPLICATED.

Kung ikaw ay nakatingin lang sa mga MALI ng kapwa mo ... tapos yong mga TAMA niyang ginagawa ay binabalewala mo ... you are making his life ... and your life complicated.

Nakakapagod Ang Magpuna

Nakakapagod din ang magbigay ng paalala lalo na kung nakikitang mong walang pagbabago ang binibigyan mo nito. Akala nyo ba natutuwa at nagagalak ang mga nagbibigay ng puna sa mga pinaggagawa nila? Akala mo ba ay feeling virtuous sila, decent, principled at faultless na kung umasta na lang ay sila na ang the most honorable and the most righteous?

Hindi ito ang punto hijo. Sinasabi nila ang mga nakita nila dahil mahal ka nila -hindi dahil takaw-puna sila. May mga pagkamali sila for sure, but that doesn't stop them to remind you of your excesses and shortcomings? They are doing this dahil gusto ka nilang magbago. Yon lang yon.  

Kung ayaw mo - your choice. But don't blame them for showing concern and apprehension that you going down the abyss of nothingness.  For all its worth ikaw na rin makapagpatunay in your history that after ignoring their warnings tapos bumagsak ka ... wala kang maisip pupuntahan kundi bumalik sa kanila.

Constructive Criticism

Bakit may mga taong ayaw magbago? Allergic sila sa mga puna at constructive criticism na sana ay gawin nilang gabay sa pagtahak sa buhay. Ayaw nila ang mga reminders na paulit-ulit, at recycled at kung narinig  na nila ang puna mo noon ... ayaw na nilang marinig ito ngayon.  Pag pinuna mo ulit buong ningning nilang sabihin ito sa iyo. Ayaw nilang mapuna, pero mabilis pa sa alas kuatro kung magpuna sa iba, BASTA HINDI SIYA.

Hindi kaya nila alam kaya sinasabi mo ito ng paulit-ulit ... na para ka nang sirang plaka (katulad ng pangungutang)  ... dahil paulit-ulit din nilang ginagawa ito ng walang habas without even realizing na lubog na sila sa utang?

Battle of Egos

In my opinion ang mga nangyari above is a battle of egos.  Gusto patunayan ng isa't isa kung sino ang matira at sino ang matibay sa usaping pagpuna at pagalala. Ang parent gusto lang maging magulang ,,, at ang mga anak naman para silang abogadong nilulusotan ang bawat argumento. 

Bakit ayaw makinig ... at bakit ayaw ang paulit-ulit na sermon - hindi kaya sa dahilan na may plano at gagawin nila ulit ang mga bagay na pinaalaala sa kanila (in this case the habit of borrowing money)? Pagpangutang na lang ba ang natitirang option? How about looking for a job ... mahirap ba gawin ang option na ito? 

Parents ... A Hater?

I really hate to say it, but some children assume that when a parent provides feedback or is trying to mirror the son's behavior (whether it is constructive or destructive), he or she is a HATER. Your parent does not hate you,(for crying out loud) they are just telling you the truth ... & they are just concerned about you.

If you hate listening to words of wisdom or comforting words ... something is wrong somewhere. If you are not OPEN to parental advice/fatherly reminders then you are not OPEN to growing up like a mature adult.

Now let us make the situation reverse: how would you feel ... if you are at the lowest ebb of your life ... and here comes your parents being silent about the whole thing ... or worse ... making you feel you are alone in your fight.

Just food for thought for you: don't wait until your parents will stop giving you constructive criticism. When that situation comes ... most likely they have given up on you.

Head or Heart

 

What people say about us has its own TARGET.   When people give us rave reviews, or give us a standing ovation ... when people cheer for us and give us applause ... when the company we worked with pays us some commendation or a tribute of some sort ... these warm our hearts and elevate our spirit and we are in cloud nine. A word of warning though ...

Don't make the acclaim, the accolade, and the compliments get into our HEAD.   By the same token, when somebody reminds us, critiques our work, castigates, and slams what we did, or simply wants to burst our bubble ... don't let that get into our HEART.

Puna't Papuri

Kung ang isang tao ay matanggap niya ng maluwag sa loob ang mga PAPURI ... aba dapat rin lang tanggapin niya ng walang reklamo ang mga PUNA. Kailangan natin ito for our personal growth.

Bakit? Kung sa mga halaman ... it takes both the sun and the rain for them to grow. Ganoon din sa tao. Kailangan natin ang mga papuri ... and on the same breath kung may puna mang darating ... tanggapin natin ito para sa pagbabago para mas lumago at titingkad lalo ang ating buhay. 

Appreciate Constructive Criticism

Accepting constructive criticism is uncomfortable for many, but everybody should realize that it is imperative and paramount.  It (constructive criticism) is likened to having symptoms of pain. They are alarm prompts and distress signals that shake you to pay attention that something is unsound in your body ... that is why there is pain.

If you ignore the pain or the constructive criticism ... something bad is going to happen. Whether you like it or not.

Think about it.  Sometimes it is smart to appreciate somebody's honesty ... he will not rub it on your face if he doesn't care for you.

Food For Thought

 

Food For Thought

 

It is Bizarre!

It is bizarre when you think everything that happens in your life is somebody's fault.

And it is more bizarre if you hold grudges against people you blamed, for things you said and did to them.

You Want A Good Life?

Stop pointing fingers at your life's hiccups in the wrong directions.

Burp the excess air in your stomach (including your head) and belch.  And don't forget to move that "arse" around and start the exact good life you always wanted to have.

Definition

Balimbing defined.  Sila yong mga taong pag KAHARAP ka matalinhaga at matulain ang mga papuri sa iyo.

Kapag NAKATALIKOD ka ... nagiiba ang anyo.  Either diring-diri siya sa iyo ... or sa tantiya niya wala ka man lang redeeming value as a person.

Beware of balimbings/plastik.  They keep changing sides or colors ... according to their convenience or kung ano ang kailangan nila sa umagang iyon.