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Tuesday, April 23, 2024

It Is Never Right To Shame



Bakit takaw -eskandalo ka? Everytime na may taong gustong mong ituwid  ... or ituwid ka ... o may taong kumokontra sa iyo ... bakit para kang bulkan na sumasambulat at defensive agad?

Sa mga kritiko ... ang tindi ng atake mo ... it is almost bordering on belittling or ridiculing. At sa mga taong pinupuna ... doble rin ang balik mo  ha... kung hindi mo nagustohan ang mga sinabi niya ... dobleng latay ang sakit ng mga sinasabi mo and more often than not ... dahil na-offend ka ... hinihiya mo siya to get even. Whether you are the nitpicker ... or the nitpickee ... plain and simple ... you can always pin down your enemy by attacking his vulnerable sides.

Sa mga critic ...  gusto mo ikaw ang masunod ... at gusto mo pinapakinggan ka. Sa mga pinipintasan ... ayaw mong tumanggap ng constructive criticism ... ayaw mo rin ng reaction at feedback sa kung anong  mga mali mong  desisyon na lantarang ginagawa mo for all your friends to see. Gusto mo malaya maisakatuparan mo ang iyong mga decisions ... you'd rather na ang mga friends mo ... walang nakikita ... walang naririnig ... walang pakialam ... at walang hahadlang.

Talking about giving constructive criticisms ... and getting offensive when criticized ... ito ang tip ko sa inyo mga tol.

Kung may nakita ka ng mali sa tao ... it is never right to SHAME the person just to prove your point. At kung na-offend ka sa sinabi ng critic mo ... it is also never right to give him the wrath of God ... something he has not experienced before.

Learning will not happen when you use EDUCATION SHAMING as your means. Ang pamamahiya sa iba ay hindi ikatatalino ninuman ... much more ikahusay ... or will make him change to better himself.

In the same vein ... shaming your critic to give him a dose of his own medicine ... will fan the embers of your disagreement and difference of opinion ... and nothing will be resolved.

One secret so you can meet halfway is for both parties to be respectful and patient. Talk about the problem and its solutions in private ... (not in public for all the world to see and hear) ... and you see your communication grow and smooth sailing.

Education Shaming

 


Assistant in Quora has this to say about education shaming.

"Education shaming refers to the act of belittling or stigmatizing individuals based on their level of education or academic achievements. This can take various forms, such as ridiculing someone for not pursuing higher education, mocking individuals for their choice of field of study, or devaluing someone's intelligence based on their educational background. Education shaming can have detrimental effects on individuals' self-esteem and can perpetuate inequality and discrimination. It's important to promote a culture of respect for diverse educational paths and to recognize that intelligence and worth are not solely determined by formal education."

Correct me if I am wrong ... but I think education shaming is more than that. I think it encompasses any education - where shaming is involved to make the person realize his sins of omission and commission. If you caught your nephew taking 1000 pesos from your wallet (he is a graduating high school student ... and is planning to enter the university soon) and you start lecturing him on these issues:

1. honesty and truthfulness

2. being contented with what his parents give

3. living within his means

4.  careful budgeting

5.  saving money

6. stealing as a crime

your pep talk and impromptu lecture are SHAMING the kid (letting the kid know what he did and telling him the repercussions of his behavior) to TEACH him.

Shame-based teaching ... and shame-based learning is a type of education that teaches what he should do and what he shouldn't do. It is a means to let the kid know his flawed behavior that deviates from the norms of social conduct. It is a means to educate the kid on what he ought to do and should not ... by humiliating him.

The main goal here is ... to shame the kid (not for anything else) and not because you want to ... but to teach him ... and learn important life lessons.

But frankly, education shaming is pointless and ineffectual really ... having a third person eavesdropping on what is going on ... the SHAMERS will surely leave a worse taste in the listener's mouth than it does about the PERSONS THEY ARE SHAMING. 

Education-shaming and shaming-learning have their own snag and downsides ... their success is few and far between. It really depends on how the process was executed ... and how the shamer and the person being shamed react to it.

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