Sa mga kritiko ... ang tindi ng atake mo ... it is almost bordering on belittling or ridiculing. At sa mga taong pinupuna ... doble rin ang balik mo ha... kung hindi mo nagustohan ang mga sinabi niya ... dobleng latay ang sakit ng mga sinasabi mo and more often than not ... dahil na-offend ka ... hinihiya mo siya to get even. Whether you are the nitpicker ... or the nitpickee ... plain and simple ... you can always pin down your enemy by attacking his vulnerable sides.
Sa mga critic ... gusto mo ikaw ang masunod ... at gusto mo pinapakinggan ka. Sa mga pinipintasan ... ayaw mong tumanggap ng constructive criticism ... ayaw mo rin ng reaction at feedback sa kung anong mga mali mong desisyon na lantarang ginagawa mo for all your friends to see. Gusto mo malaya maisakatuparan mo ang iyong mga decisions ... you'd rather na ang mga friends mo ... walang nakikita ... walang naririnig ... walang pakialam ... at walang hahadlang.
Talking about giving constructive criticisms ... and getting offensive when criticized ... ito ang tip ko sa inyo mga tol.
Kung may nakita ka ng mali sa tao ... it is never right to SHAME the person just to prove your point. At kung na-offend ka sa sinabi ng critic mo ... it is also never right to give him the wrath of God ... something he has not experienced before.
Learning will not happen when you use EDUCATION SHAMING as your means. Ang pamamahiya sa iba ay hindi ikatatalino ninuman ... much more ikahusay ... or will make him change to better himself.
In the same vein ... shaming your critic to give him a dose of his own medicine ... will fan the embers of your disagreement and difference of opinion ... and nothing will be resolved.
One secret so you can meet halfway is for both parties to be respectful and patient. Talk about the problem and its solutions in private ... (not in public for all the world to see and hear) ... and you see your communication grow and smooth sailing.
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