Netizen: If I am not accustomed to your style of writing, I might have to believe what you say in your one-liner below about DREAMS and REALITY. But I know you have a penchant to use figurative language like metaphor, simile, idioms, oxymorons, and paradoxes. And I notice you can also make fun of yourself ( and make puns) just to make a point.
But the saying you made is so true ... and I can relate to what you have said. I felt that I am only happy in my dreams ... which made me think I can be drowned in a beautiful and happy dream ... and wish I never woke up.
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Response: I am not an expert on dreams, so what I am going to say is just my two cents worth ... the way I understand dreams. It is not uncommon to see unhappy people getting solace from dreams and fantasies. Your dreams felt real and happy ... was it because in reality, you aren't happy enough as you see it in your dream? I may be wrong here.
Dreams are psychological projections of how one regards real life ... if one has the feeling that real life is in a sorry state and in disarray ... then an emotion like desire or ambition may bring you to a Disney world of technicolored fantasy ... and will find a way that would please you in your dreams.
There are several schools of thought about why dreams are happier compared to reality. Some experts suggest that dreams help us take a trip to La La Land... a place where fantasy and reality collide. Dreams help us process painful realities and feelings to charge up and jack up dwindling psychological well-being when one has risen up the next day. Another theory believes that dreams are one of the ways of repelling tortuous and convoluted emotional teleserye in our life ... and that dreams are making contact with our feelings and trying to make necessary connections that our conscious self would not.
The reality (real life) for some, can be very exhausting and backbreaking. It can be tiresome and tedious living the same mundane life with the same stale prospect. Dreams offer a change, an assortment, or a diversity. They give you the chance to live and experience myriad possibilities many different things which could possibly never happen in reality, or an awake state of being.
Why are you happy in your dreams? Was it because your internal spirit is hopeful, positive, and supportive of you? Your subconscious apparently likes who you are. I think he likes you enough that it is rewarding you with one happy and pleasant dream.
On the other hand, dreams can make us sad too. When we dream of having things we lack (and we see ourselves living in a big mansion with 12 maids following all our needs) a moment that seems so real to the extent we feel like we are living the life and the dream.
However, when we wake up, the rude awakening hit us hard when we realize it was just a dream and we are in the same status quo (a life of broken dreams and promises). It was just a fantasy ... an alternate version where you had everything you ever wanted and dreamed of. When the dream was rudely cut off and interrupted ... just like bursting a balloon ... we finally realized it was just a fancy thought ... and waking up sent us back to the life we are desperately trying to dream out of. That is when sadness seeps in.
Dreams can give you a lot more than being awake can. They let you have immediate change which many people hope for. We live in the same damn reality for our entire lives, so it's nice to alter it once in a while through dreams or by other means.
So why not try to make your life more like the dreams of which you are so fond. You've given yourself a blueprint. Try following it.
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