When Somebody Believes In His Lies

People who have the habit of making LIES ... normal na lang sa kanya ang pagsinungaling ... like going to the bathroom when he feels like it ... or raiding the refrigerator when hunger pangs strike.

What is alarming is dahil normal na lang ito sa kanya, he doesn't have the slightest idea how his lies broke other people's hearts and they don't have an iota of cognizance of how his lies are affecting the people nearest to him. And the worst of all, dahil normal na lang ang fibbing sa kanya pati siya naniniwala na TOTOO ang mga kasinungalingan niya.

Sometimes he has to resort to gas-lighting to put more salt in the wound. An example of gas-lighting is when an abuser tries to control the victim by twisting their sense of reality. Can you imagine a guy shoplifting and then denying it happened?

Kailangan pa ba ang CCTV para patunayang sinungaling siya? At binaliktad pa nga ang situation ... ngayon siya na ang nagrereklamo sa reklamo mo  despite CCTV footages to verify the veracity of your claims.  He dismiss the accusation non-chalantly ... making you question your sanity: "Tama ba ako?... pero he denied it ... eh ano yong nakita ko sa TV screen? ... nagshoplift nga ba siya?" Poor gaslighting victim ... pati ang katinoan niya ... kinuquestion na niya!

When somebody vacillates to the extremes that anything abnormal becomes normal to him ... he should not dismiss it as a matter of a factly ... and treat that with a cavalier attitude because this is something out of line. 

Pathological lying that segue into gaslighting is a symptom of various personality disorders, including antisocial, narcissistic, and histrionic personality disorders. Other conditions, such as borderline personality disorder, may also lead to frequent lies, but the lies themselves are not considered pathological.

Self Reliance

When does "Mom ... where's my allowance" metamorphose into: "Mom ... here ... is my salary for this month."

Anybody reading this would think that all parents expect their children to repay the hard work of rearing them.  Not me ... all I want is to see them turning into a self-reliant person, somebody who can afford to live a decent life, confident in their own abilities and able to do things for themselves.  And while we are at it, they should have the ability to find a way around obstacles, the ability to show up and follow through, and the ability to bounce back when things did not go their way.

Bills ... Bills ... Bills

Talking about self- reliance, isang motivation para sa mga bagong parents para huwag tatamad-tamad o urong-sulong kung magtrabaho or hindi.

Gumawa kayo ng checklist para sa bills na dapat bayaran ... at listahan ng mga basic needs sa bahay na dapat bilhin. If that is not enough motivation .... tell! Kung ayaw mong gumalaw para maghanap ng trabaho ... decision mo yan.  Basta huwag kang sisi ng sisi sa iba na wala namang kinalaman sa decision mo.

Mas Lalong Napagod

Friend 1: When you reach the point na gusto mo nang mag-give up at sumurender dahil pagod ka na ... tingnan mo na lang ang mga anak mo.

Friend 2: Anak ng tokwa na advise yan? Ayon tiningnan ko nga ... lalo akong napagod.

Are The Stars Out Tonight ? Jericho Rosales

Not everybody has a chance to brush elbows with the stars in the entertainment, modeling, and pageant industries so when the invitation starts knocking at my door ... who am I to refuse. Others may frown at it ... but it is irresistible. Well-meaning friends have given us the opportunity on a silver platter (it is like allowing us to get something easily ... without having to work on it) so when I saw the window ... in basketball lingo - an opening ... all I did was to dribble the ball ... do the lay-up and shoot it for the much-needed money shot.

Jericho Rosales aka Echo ... a one-time Mr. Pogi contender in Eat Bulaga has blossomed and metamorphosed into a no-nonsense actor in the real sense of the word at the ABS CBN stable.

                                                  Jericho Rosales - Pinoy Actor and Model