Are You Being Used Part 3

For Boyfriend/girlfriend ... take the cue from here,  Some indicators could help you if he is into you or just using you. Is he in a relationship with you to show off ... peer pressure ... or do family expectations?   Or was he in a relationship with you because of money or just sex? Does he treat you like an option instead of a priority? 

And why are there commitment issues?  Does he fear the relationship, such as fear of being hurt, fear of being with the wrong person, fear of things not working out, and other relationship-related anxieties?

Are you in an unhealthy relationship that is often characterized by: controlling behaviors, mistrust, disrespect, and poor communication?

Read on to explore a few signs that he is using you 

1. You are an open book ... and you feel he is a closed book with too many secrets on the side.

2. He is hesitant introducing you to his parents or siblings.

3. You don't know where he lives ... When ask he just feels uncomfortable.

4.  Your conversations lack vitality ... others are blockbusters while yours are lackluster.

5.  You haven't met any of his friends ... let alone ... anyone he knows.

6.  You ruined his day when you open up topics on intimacy ... and marriage is a big NO-NO.

7.  You gave too many favors ... too many gifts too ... while he offers none.

8.  You have a communication gap ... he is reluctant to express views and opinions.

9.  He talks about current events, politics, or the NBA finals... but he is mum about what you are to him.

10 He seems distant and cold. There is no emotion involved when you are together.

11. You know little about his personal life ... as in zilch.

12. He looked like he has ulterior motives ... and just leading you on.

13. He gets upset ... if you start to ask questions.

14. He is always busy ... and doesn't have time for you.

15. His needs come first over yours.

16.  He says he loves you but action speaks louder than words.

17.  You end up picking up the bill wherever you go 

18. You are the only one making the effort ... to make your relationship works.

19. You don't feel special.  He is not there to please you ... and he is not thoughtful.

20. He is just having sex ... and not making love to you

Responding To Netizens Comment

Netizen: I just love your posts on Are You Being Abused? I have a question though ... when is the best time to end a relationship?

Response: There is no magic formula for a successful BF/GF or parent/children relationship. We give second chances (sometimes 6 to 10 times more) but when all indications point to the fact that it is not working and you are being abused, some relationships are not worth saving.

If you tried every other option to give the relationship a second breath of life, but the other party is not ready and prepared to make any adjustment or maybe change for the better, the time has come to bail out and quit.

If the person has no intention to modify his old abusive habits walking away from the relationship is a welcome option and may be the best alternative to protect your overall welfare and state of health.

One should remember that all relationships are unique and different from each other.  When you have a bad hair day ... emotions are running high and you can be petulant, resentful, and testy. And it can be denied that the aforementioned feelings can inundate and spill over .... even in relationships that have stood the test of time.

When abuse is present and you became a willing doormat and a fall guy for your partner it is imperative to remind yourself that you deserve better - a marriage where you feel safe, happy, and respected.

If you suspect that you might be involved in an unhealthy relationship, spend some time considering the impact it has on your life, whether these issues can be fixed, and whether it might be time to end the relationship.