Question: What is the difference between emotional maturity and emotional immaturity
Answer: One can usually see the glaring difference based on different dimensions
1. Ability to control their emotions - Emotionally mature people know how to respond to situations responsively while emotionally immature people act on impulse. Their response is foolhardy with a devil-may-care attitude.
2. Reactions - EM people approach the problem calmly ... examine the situation make a thorough analysis of what to do and think of the possible outcome when he has chosen their options. EI people overreact to MINOR things and cannot contain their raging emotions. After creating a scene, he regrets the blatant display of juvenile temper tantrums and thinks he could have handled the situation more lightly.
3. Criticism and Feedback - EM is open-minded to criticism. They are open to new ideas and suggestions and they are willing to change and can accept that they are wrong. If EM is RECEPTIVE ... EI on the other hand is DECEPTIVE ... at times defensive and often feels they were attacked when there is a criticism ... as he sang the refrain of ... Me and Me Against The World.
4. Flexibility - EM can step outside of his comfort zone and is willing to see what is going on on the other side of the fence. They are friendly and welcoming to other points of view and mindset. EI however is rigid, oftentimes UNBENDING ... and UNYIELDING. Individual differences to them are annoying.
5. Empathy - EM has the ability to place themselves in the psychological shoes of another person. They are able to understand and appreciate the feelings of another. EI can not empathize. More often than not they are stingy with compassion. Something is lacking from them... so how can you expect them to share your grief?
6. Accountability - EM take responsibility for their actions. They own their work and doesn't make excuses if something goes wrong. EI is a piece of work. If there is trouble, instead of being honest and confess what happened, they either keep mum ... or go into hiding.
7. Healthy Boundaries - When EM set healthy boundaries, they are forthright saying: "This is what I want ... and this is what I hate." Setting boundaries protects our personal space. Setting boundaries with EI can be exhausting and challenging. The first thing he will say to you is: "You hate me this much and you are setting boundaries?
8. Conflicts - EM usually works towards the resolution of the conflict. EI think time will heal the wound ... no matter how long. He'd rather leave the conflict hanging ... and think the conflict and the ill feelings will pass.
9. Relationship - EM usually makes joint decisions and works together towards relationship goals. On the other end of the relationship with EI is like living a life on an eggshell. These individuals are not just mercurial, their moods are see-saw like. They are volatile and fluctuating as they vacillate from one extreme to another in how they deal with others.
So you never feel like you can relax around them—turmoil seems to always be either around the corner, a small incident, or one misspoken word away. You have to tread lightly, as if on eggshells, just to survive.
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