Have You Experience Ambivalence?

Ano ba yan? Para sa mga Dutertards ... it is just a pity na AMBIVALENCE ang nararamdaman nila ngayon sa sitwasyon ng kanilang si Tatay Digong.

Ambivalence ... ano yon? First of all ... ipaliwanag muna natin kung ano ito ... para magkaliwanagan.

I recall one psychiatric doctor, with whom we were affiliated at Moustashpha Homiyat, who did a good job explaining what it was all about. 

Ambivalence is when a person or a group of persons has MIXED, often OPPOSING or CONTRASTING feelings or thoughts towards someone.

To the uninformed ... they often asked: "Is it possible that a person will have co-existing opposite and contradictory emotions? Yes na yes ang sagot diyan ... it is possible. Simultaneously at sabay itong nangyayari. Hindi paisa-isa or separately.

Kaya nga di ba may old song na Never, Never, Never si Shirley Bassey capturing the intense, contradictory feelings of loving someone despite the pain he gave, with lyrics that run..."I LOVE you ... HATE you ... love you, hate you, but I want you till the world stops turning ... "I never, never, never want to be in love with anyone .... but you." 

This song perfectly describes that push-and-pull, inescapable love where she feels it is impossible to live with him ... but can't live without him either.

In the flood control project scams, Pinoys felt AMBIVALENT about their government, too. With the Trillion Peso March, one feeling tone is that they want change pronto, and they want justice by putting the "kurakots" in jail. Simultaneously, they also experience an opposing/contrasting feeling, and that is, they fear the outcome - that BBM is just too weak to match the imminent threats of the destabilization.

Stated another way, ambivalence is the experience of having an attitude towards someone that contains both positively and negatively valenced components.

This is the kind of ambivalence the DDS populace felt.

On one hand is the positive feeling, where all of them wish he could be brought home so he can have the pink of health.

On the other hand is the negative feeling ... they also wish (under the present circumstances) he would be diagnosed cognitively impaired ... perhaps mentally incapacitated, so ICC could cool off its steam and decide the ex-president needs a breather - and in a jiffy let him pack his bags and jet-ski his way home.

Well, reality bites ... and ICC doesn't care less.  Whether Tatay Digong is in a tip-top shape ... and in excellent condition ... or he has deteriorated and is unfit to defend himself in court ... PRRD will stay in prison ... where he belongs.

End of discussion.