Responding To Netizen's Comments

Netizen's Comment: You have been telling us the PROS to tough love. Are there also CONS?

Response: 

Sure, tough love can be a genuine, and sincere way of showing our concern. But there is a potential drawback to tough love. The person given tough love may misconstrue your concern as a prejudicial critique of themselves, a destructive appraisal of their behavior, or they will feel we are so authoritarian, pushy, and oppressive.

Your loved ones feel they have to do something and they feel the need to correct and fine-tune all the facets of your situation. The reason why they do that is out of anxiety - when they see there is no light at the end of the tunnel for you, they become impotent and defenseless.

To avoid their helpless feelings, they become dictatorial spelling out what is lacking in you and what strategies you need to try to improve yourself. The more paralyzed they become ... the more demands they will ask from you.  Making you more frustrated.