O Bakit Kaya?

O bakit kaya ... iba ang sinisisi kapag merong kang kapalpakang ginagawa?

Kung ikaw ay nalulong sa masamang bisyo ... kasalanan ng parents mo kasi nasa abroad. Kung ikaw ay nagbubulakbol ... sisihin ang mama at papa at busy sila at puro na lang trabaho. Kung wala kang trabaho ... aba eh may pandemic kasi ... eh kung mahawa ba naman. At kung wala kang pambayad sa bills ... sisihin mo ang metro at ang bilis ng patak? 

Did you ever notice na palagi na lang iba ang puno't dulo at ang sinisisi ninyo sa mga masasamang nangyayari sa buhay mo?  At ikaw naman ang kapitagpitagan ... so immaculately white ... walang bahid ... at biktima lang ng pagkakataon?

Stop Blaming Others

"To every problem ... there is always a solution.  If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem."

And if you are the problem ... huwag ka nang manginvolve ng iba. That's the most honorable thing you can do ... nalulunod ka na ... hihilain mo pang pababa ang iba? Or gusto mo lang i-involve sila ... para may sisihin ka?

Nursery Rhymes

I would rather na ordinaryo lang ang ating hitsura at dating ... pati na ang porma,

Basta umaapaw ang bankbook ... at pumuputok ang laman ng bulsa.

Kaysa naman mag-pretend tayo at umastang mayaman at maraming kaibigan,

Yon pala nakapila ang mga naniningil ... dahil maraming pinagkautangan.

From What I See

Family is not about giving in to your son or daughter even when you feel they are on the wrong side of the road. Giving in is enabling and you become an accomplice and an accessory to what your son has become.

Family is mustering enough courage to mirror your son's image and show him what kind of a nincompoop he has transformed when he decided this life's direction.

Second Chances

The more chances you give to an erring loved one, the lesser regard they will give to you as a person. They will brush off the high parameters you have stipulated because they know you will melt like ice cream and give them again another chance.

They see you vacillating like a pendulum and more often than not they expect that you can't just leave them like that. They feel cozy in their seats knowing that you will "forgive" them anyways... and you will "forget" in the long run. 

A word of advice?  Don't let people become complacent and lose respect for you ... just because you are a nice person who has the habit of giving excuses and accepting behavior that you would not normally accept.

To All Enablers

 

A wake-up call to all enablers:

We maimed and dismembered the leg of a person who is strong enough to walk because we choose to baby or carry him.  He like that ... by the way.

Nursery Rhymes

When someone feels that he can make you an OPTION. 

Make him select from a multiple-choice QUESTION

One that doesn't include you in the EQUATION.

One way to get rid of the stigma of being an enabler is your non-  PARTICIPATION.