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Sunday, February 6, 2022

Hibiscus of the Day: Fiji Hibiscus


Hibiscus ID: Fiji Hibiscus

Bought From Banate Iloilo

Can Be Seen at Main Street


Fiji Hibiscus Large dark mauve starry flowers with a deep eggplant center are born freely on this vigorous and large growing, and much sought after rare Hibiscus. Fiji Island Hibiscus is a vigorous and free-flowering Tropical Hibiscus producing a nearly continuous display of the rare purple Hibiscus flowers throughout the year making this a wonderful addition to the tropical garden or as a container plant.

Saturday, February 5, 2022

If You Feel Something Is Wrong Seek Professional Help

Everybody has to take care of their own side of the street and make them clean. It means being clear and self-responsible in your life and cleaning your emotional state up when you mess up. Just like dog owners, it’s best not to leave your emotional poop stinking up the sidewalk for others to step on. Scoop the poop out right away and move on.

So when you realize something is wrong you should know how to act when depression hits. When you get in that space, you recognize it, and when you identify what’s going on, and what needs to be done by all means do it right away. Seek help and make it your first option.



You can always argue that it is easier said than done. You see when (a voice from within) your inner demons and personal struggles are whispering to you, that it is A-OK to harbor anger and resentment or deny or deprive someone of your love and the other voice (your conscience) castigate you for it, this is where the conflict and the battle from within starts.

But somewhere amidst the noise and the cacophony of your internal combat, there’s is still YOU, the final arbiter, the final judge, the voice that chooses which road to tread. You can’t tone down which voice was deafening but you have the option to follow the clearest one and teach the others to back off.

After that, you seek help from professionals.

Tuesday, February 1, 2022

Happy Faces Is The Real Face of Depression

  Mostly depressed patients has these hallmark signs:


Feeling sad or empty

Having little interest or pleasure in doing things

Experiencing a change in appetite with weight loss or weight gain

Trouble falling or staying asleep, or sleeping too much

Being tired, fatigued, and having no energy

Feeling worthless or guilty that you have let yourself or your family down

Moving slowly or the opposite – being overly fidgety and restless

Having difficulty thinking or concentrating on things such as reading the newspaper or watching TV

Letting personal hygiene go – not bathing or dressing well

Recurring thoughts of hurting yourself or thinking that you’d be better off dead



But there are people who manage to show the world a happy facade.  And you know the reasons? They don't want their loved ones to worry. Maybe the situation is too much for her to share with anybody. Or the situation is too personal that confiding it with a family member is adding more stress to the person. 

Some doctors are calling it a smiling depression. Although this is still not a clinical diagnosis per se, it is very common. Smiling depression happens when the patient masked her symptoms. They hide behind a smile to make loved ones feel that they are okay ... that they are happy.

This type of depression sometimes remained undetected as the patient make all the effort to make her symptoms obscure. To the untrained, a depressed person is somebody who is very sad and has crying spells, & are unable to sleep or eat.

Individuals with smiling depression make use of her defense mechanisms as they often look happy to the outside world and keep their emotions bottled up.

Indeed the mind is difficult to understand, not to mention its complexities.

Sunday, January 30, 2022

Trolling Destiny Wagner's Hair

There is a new internet hobby Thailand has, and that is trolling.

Well, it's all about trolls and their captive audience.  Trolls such as Nawat, Coco, Ian et al, are people who leave intentionally provocative or offensive messages on the internet in order to get attention, cause trouble, or upset someone. 

The trolls promote antipathetic emotions of disgust and outrage, which morbidly gives them a sense of pleasure. They are Someone who brings something off-topic into the conversation in order to make that person/ or person mad.  

They are the monsters who hide in darkness and harass people. Internet trolls have a manifesto of sorts, which states they are doing it for the “lulz,” or laughs. 


The controversy between TalkMissThailand and Destiny Wagner is creating a lot of hubbub and noise in the pageant world. But this time The admin of this Thai group has gone an all-time low when they compare Deestiny's braided hair to cow's shit. Really ...  and from the looks of it this Thai group has really gone berserk with the way they disapprove or criticize somebody, this group's actions are bordering on ethnocentricism - it's the belief that one's ethnic group is superior to another. Ethnocentric individuals believe they're better than other individuals for reasons based solely on their heritage.

What is wrong with braided hair? Destiny is a black woman why shouldn't she have braided hair?  She is proud of who she is, her culture, and her heritage, And for this group to dictate & insinuate preposterous and absurd ideas is like throwing mud to political correctness that everybody wants to practice.

As a matter of fact, Kim Kardashian has a fancy for braided hair, and on one  MTV awards night, she sported Fulani braids which should have been treated as some kind of flattery (as in imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. However, Kim was accused of CULTURAL APPROPRIATION  - defined as the adoption of elements of one culture by another, especially in cases where a dominant culture exploits aspects of a minority culture outside of its original cultural context and/or at the expense of the original culture for personal gain.

I don't think Kim meant anything bad when she sported that hair style. There are Blacks or Asians dying their hair blonde, who can say no to them if they want that.

Going back to this Thai group who are playing with words just to make a point, Pia Wurtzbach has already warned us the dangersof not CHECKING OR toning down our emotions when serving  their opinions especially in social media: THINK BEFORE YOU CLICK!

We already see this scenario a lot of times.  Somebody is gung ho about giving somebody a piece of their mind ... and then later when the heat is unbearable you see them cowering in the corner looking for safety.  And the first thing they do is erase what they posted.  Silly but true.

#Talk Miss Thailand in Destiny's case is most likely driven by a need for attention. Their comments, however, that Destiny's braided hair looked like cow's manure sparked negative attention from netizens, so they thought they succeeded as it gives them the illusion of being important because people are talking about it.

And now that the case is burning, and netizens are showing their disgust, they are raising a white flag of retreat.

And as they surrender their first instinct is to remove and delete them.  Fortunately, some well-meaning members were able to copy and paste their work, thus giving them an indelible and never-to-be-forgotten lesson in internet use.


Cheslie Kryst Suicide: What Red Flags Did We Missed?

Losing a beauty queen that you have learned to like is never easy, may her fans and supporters will find solace in the lovely memories she shared with us.

It is really difficult to imagine a celebrity committing suicide.  We just saw her in Israel and what we saw was somebody who was full of LIFE, and somebody who loves LIFE, and the LIFE she was injecting into her career. Then with just one twist of the finger ... she's gone?  Then you start asking these questions.  Was it really suicide?  What warning signs did her family miss here. Was there a foul play? I can't imagine a lawyer with a budding career jumping her way out to her death. Some-body as smart as she, making her goodbyes the most painful not only to her but her family.

At this time she left leaving her family and fans in total disbelief, now they crack their heads about what they could have missed. Were there red flags and warning signs, and now they wonder what clues they might have missed. Often, many factors combine to lead a person to the decision to take their own life. Did she do it impulsively or in a spur of the moment? Or she has been outlining these plans extensively?



While there are many factors that can influence a person's decision to commit suicide, the most common are:

1. severe depression - According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, depression is present in about half of all 

suicides.

2. traumatic experience - depression is common after trauma. If it is a case of multiple trauma, even if the incident happened

in the past, the risk of suicide is higher.

3. Impulsivity -drugs, and alcohol can make somebody impulsive, and the person would likely act on what he or she feels and

suicide was the most available option.

4. Loss of something important - ex. loss of job, financial problems, loss of social status, loss of a loved one

5. Hopelessness

6. Feeling of being a burden to others

Suicide is not a cry for attention but a cry for help. It was their way of showing the world how much they are hurting. While it might have appeared that someone had everything to live for, it probably didn't feel that way to them.

To her family and friends, based on the outline, were there any clues or hints that you missed?  If the answer is no, let's wait for the result of the investigation. And maybe start looking at the case from a different angle.

Why is Suicide Being Investigated?

Suicide is considered an unnatural death. All deaths that can't be described as death by natural causes are categorized as unnatural deaths. This includes accidents, homicide, suicide, violent death, falls, poisoning, or overdoses (intentional and unintentional), and drowning.

In Cheasli's case, police need to come and investigate. Suicide is not against the law but being bombarded by whodunit movies and social media flooding us with truthful or fake reports there are cases where a homicide has been made to look like a suicide, and the police have to make sure that the suicide has not been staged to cover up a foul play

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