When History Is Likened To Opening A Can of Worms

 Question: Ano ba ang mahirap: ang Algebra na ugali na ang hanapin si "X" ... o ang History na mahilig maghalungkat ng kahapon at nakaraan?

Answer:  If we are going to place these two High School subjects side by side and answer which of the two is hard in terms of how one treats somebody ... or a relationship ... I have to say both.

History on a positive note is saying hello to yesterday. It is an act of recalling the relationship ... especially with pleasure and nostalgia. And reminisce is a dreamy way of remembering the past when your swapping old memories and recollect the silly things you used to do.

History becomes negative when the relationship went pfffhhht and one of the parties has not moved on.  He dug up dirty linens in the past, their petty quarrels, their minor and insignificant arguments that often run berserk.  All he thinks is what went wrong when they have a good start. 

He was drowned in bitterness and all he can think is to resort to the blame game.  When things didn't go as planned it is difficult for him to resist the urge to blame especially when his emotions are running high.

In life, things often don’t go the way we expect. And when that happens, it is easier to play the blame game, that is, by blaming someone else for what happened, rather than taking responsibility for it. It takes less energy to point fingers at someone instead of admitting the truth to ourselves.

That blame game is addictive. No matter what level you are at in the game, you can never win. You need to just stop playing it and get back control of your life, your relationships, and your happiness.