Money Talk With A Friend

My friend asked me about "nouveau riche". Is it something negative or positive?

Nouveau riche is a French word for people from lower strata of society who have recently become very rich and like to show this publicly by spending a lot of money. It is a term usually used in a derogatory way to people who acquired that wealth by a strike of luck they won in a lotto ... or strike a pot of gold in their backyard. They recently become wealthy ... and they spend their money in a flashy and ostentatious manner like there is no tomorrow.

My friend's follow-up question was: What brands do the new rich look for?

All branded products and designer's clothes... You name it: Rolex, Louis Vuitton, Mercedes Benz, Dolce and Gabanna, Prada, and Gucci to name a few.

What other terms can be used for nouveau riche? 

Some people call them social butterflies... others call them social climbers. As one writer put it: "They are someone who is not originally rich but brags their wealth and achievements through material possessions. Thinking that they can show people how rich they are because they can afford things that only rich people can afford. But honestly, people from the upper class particularly the old rich, find these social climbers ridiculous, lack of pedigree by being ill-mannered and displaying poor taste. These social climbers usually display loud behavior. They are also, more often than not, flaunting their wealth and are dressed in designer from head to toe. They love to publicize their every single move and conquest, and boorishly brag about their possessions."

And he continued: How does it differ from "vieux riche"?

Vieux riche or old rich as those people who have been wealthy for a long time ... they have been rich since the day they were born ... like the Sy, the Villars, the Razon and the Gokongwei's ... wealthy persons who have been there for a long time and whose fortunes are inherited. While nouveau riche becomes wealthy only recently. 

And the main difference is the way they spent their money. Nouveau riche provokes envy and admiration ... they don't have the good taste to spend their money in a classy way ... like the one person I know who has his house copied from a Castle in Disneyland. And there is another person who embossed Ionic and Corinthian columns in their facade and the paintings inside made their house look like a museum. What an ostentatious display of wealth - does it mean they are kings and queens ... my friend was almost smiling when she said that.

The old rich people are very frugal. They think hard enough before spending their money.

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Sana ol! Ang sarap mag-iwan ng resibo sa ATM flaunting that you still P6 million in your balance ... tapos pinagusapan ka pa pagkatapos.  Masarap sa pakiramdam ... may malaking pera ka na ... tapos it brought about a rainbow colored emotions sa mga nakakita ng resibo - pati na ang mga nakabasa sa lahat ng multi-media platforms - jealousy, resentment, suspicion, distrust, envy and self pity (a self-absorbed unhappiness thinking na mamatay ka na lang ... there is no chance na makahawak ka perang ganoon.)

Pero hindi mo ba tinanong ang psyche ng nag-iwan ng resibo ... where he is coming from? For sure may motibo ito ... Alamin ang mga posibleng mga rason. O kitam ... sa gusto niyang mapag-usapan siya ... let us suck it to them hard.

a. The guy na nag-iwan ng resibo is "nouveau riche". It can be inferred na pinangangalandakan niya ang resibo para matuwa, magselos, mainggit ang makakita nito.

b. Nagmamayabang siya.  If you have it ... flaunt it ika nga.  Katulad ng kaibigan ko who has the temerity to count his money for everybody to see (to their delight or disgust).

c. When people flaunt their wealth they want to show everybody their status and their position in society.

d.  They want to feel better about themselves as he tries to appear very successful on social media.

e. they may enjoy the rush of positive feelings that can come from likes or comments.

f. talagang makalimutin siya.

g. it was an honest mistake.  Nagmamadali lang siguro.

h. gusto na niyang magbathroom ... sira ang kinaing pinakbet (pang mayaman ba iyon).

i. nakahalata siyang pinagmasdan siya ng kasunod niya ... kaya iniwan niya ng resibo.

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Yan ba ang klase ng pagmamahal mo? Parang katulad ka ng taong kilala ko. Pagkatapos ng ilang taong pagaalaga, pagaaruga at paghihintay ... yan lang kaya mong ibigay? Ang tipid ha! At ang damot! Self-entitled ka talaga!

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When Over-Thinking Becomes Abnormal

Our last post yesterday discusses ... overthinking can help the person figure out what he should do ... and what action plan and program of measures he will take ... to achieve a specific goal. So when does overthinking become abnormal?

Overthinking becomes destructive when the person is having difficulty turning off the faucet of repetitive thoughts that bugs him to death. He also finds himself sucked in between a rock and a hard place ... making him believe there are just too limited options for him to choose from.  He kept on harping the same old refrain ... wondering about the if's and the buts. The thoughts kept on pouring in ... rendering the person paralyzed and frozen with INACTION (meaning the guy turned icicle ... he can't move and does not do anything to help himself).

When the person reaches the plateau where he is disabled and powerless ... and is unable to make decisions ...  and can't think of any antidotal measures and plans of action to remedy his situation, that is the worst OVERTHINKING can do to the person. 

Overthinking is still within normal parameters at the start. But chronic overthinking making the person lose his appetite, and affects his sleep patterns, family ties, health, and relationship ... these are red flags wanting immediate attention. 

Overthinking (or rumination) becomes a full-blown problem when it totally disrupts your functioning.  Under s stressful situation ... it is normal that the person will spring into action to survive. Being "unable to move" or the feeling that you were stuck and felt immobilized are tell-tale signs that rumination has tied both of your hands including your ability to decide on what to do.

Overthinking is a defense mechanism ... it makes the person believe he is under control ... and rumination makes them feel good inside that something is being done ... thereby reducing his anxiety. But sometimes overthinking gets out of hand ... and if the person got his mind blank and foggy, his hands tied and got glued "in the stuck mode" ... then taking action is next to impossibility.