No Gratitude ... No Apologies

 

Question: Why is it hard for entitled people to say "Thank You. " And why can't they apologize?

Answer: A person with a heightened entitlement attitude does not include in their vocabulary the words Thank you and I am sorry. They are too drunk and high that all the free stuff given to them ... doesn't have value ... in their estimate... and they are not grateful because they feel they are entitled to receive it no matter what. Who says thank you for something that is free ... And who says thank you for services rendered ... when it is rightfully theirs in the first place?

They don't appreciate the little things you gave them - money, possessions, services because they believe it is their right to have everything. Para silang mga hari at reyna na pinagsilbihan ... kung pwede na lang pati paliligo nila gagawin mo pa.While everybody wakes up early in the morning to go to work ... you see them waking up late ... bukod silang pinagpala.

Entitled individuals are basically selfish through and through. So what the hell ... that you are expecting them to be grateful when you know in your heart they are selfish?  And are you kidding me when you expect them to say "I am sorry" when they don't have remorse or guilt? 

Find me a selfish person who lavishly communicates gratitude or "utang na loob" when you give something to them. Find me a selfish person who apologizes and asks for forgiveness when they did something awful. What I know is that selfish people keep their Thank You and I'm sorry to themselves because they have enough of the good stuff and they want more coming. What happens if they say Thank You and the respondent says: "You're not welcome!" And what happens when they say" I apologize ... and the answer is "Apology not accepted." Being grateful and apologetic is antithetical to their being self-important.  See what I mean?

Entitled individuals do not show gratitude because of their excessive sense of self-importance.  Hari ka na nga ... magpapasalamat ka pa? Di ba parang ibinaba mo pa ang sarili mo? May korona ka na ... magso-sorry ka pa? Hindi bagay!

Other reasons why it is hard for entitled people to show appreciation and remorse are arrogance, vanity, and their unquenchable thirst for admiration and approval. Self-entitled people pooh-poohed the idea of open & honest communication and relationship of reciprocity. The kind of relationship they want is take and take and never give. They anticipate you will give them "special favors" for free ... and they forget to remember ... to return the favor ... and to pay back. 

So in retrospect ... what is the psychology of lack of gratitude or lack of remorse? 

A study made by one university in America showed ungrateful people are more dependent and less autonomous than those who easily show gratitude or remorse.  One thing is consistent ... they can't survive on their own. They are also the very same people who can't face the harsh reality and have problems with self-acceptance that they need others to make them safe and secure.