Questions About Entitlement

Remember the last time we posted notes about entitlement and entitled people? More reactions surfaced, and some of these inquiries we felt were important and had valid points. We can't just ignore it and lay it to rest.  It would be a big disservice if those important questions fell on deaf ears. Here is one of them.

Question: You said entitled people are narcissistic and the "me" in them makes self-importance be fed and watered. How do you discuss things with a person with entitlement issues?

Answer: They always try to win an argument because they believe they are always right.

They get offended, when somebody has a differing opinion ... or an opposing position. Some of them may tell you you are a bad person for not agreeing with them. So the next time there will be a discussion at hand, they will disagree and argue with you ... just for the sake of disagreeing or arguing. If there is another person with the same entitlement mentality, they will tag-team or roast you in tandem. At times they will go out of bounds when they sense they are losing the argument ... they start getting personal with you and may call you names.

Keep in mind that when you are in a disagreement - remind them to keep it to the “topic” and not to make it about you personally ... or make personal attacks. It helps keep the conversation focused, and it also helps to preserve the discussion as the problem your group has surely needs solutions ... after a thorough debate.

How do I win an argument with an entitled person who will never admit that he is wrong? Or better still how does an entitled person lose?

I tell you ... don't you ever go that road? Do you think it is worth your time and your energy? Ignore the possibility of having a debate with them. As we said at the start ... they are there to WIN ... come hell or high water ... so what the heck?

Entitled people are hard to deal with. Entitled people have high expectations and if their anticipation that their idea will reign supreme at the end of the discussion ... if it goes the other way ... it can deflate their self-balloons leading to disappointment and psychological distress. Entitled individuals' perceptions of another person voicing out a different opinion make them believe they are being treated unfairly. And having difficulty maintaining positive relationships with other people ... his losing the debate is a preview of more bad behaviors waiting in the wings.