Lying is Normal But ...

Whether it is a lover, a husband, or children to his parents, we are always caught in a situation where we are forced to tell lies - making us believe it is the easy way out.

Lying in a relationship is normal. Trying to hide the fact that you accidentally broke your Dad's favorite cologne, or how much you ~actually~ spent on the night out with the guys, it may even be necessary to lie sometimes to avoid hurting your Dad's feelings.

But doing this frequently has its own snag and you better be aware of its downside. The more lies you tell, the less he trusts you or has faith in your honesty. Lying makes it harder for him to detect your emotions, which in turn, can diminish the compassion and empathy he feels toward you.

When you hide things, you begin to realize that the person does not know you. Part of having a loving relationship is being understood and loved for who you are. But if you are lying and you know that the other person no longer knows you, then you are going to withdraw even further from the relationship. 

Telling lies in your understanding you are doing your Dad or your friend a favor. Over time, though, you're not doing just that. Is it safe to say you are fooling them?

Being evasive or undisclosed falsehood tear down intimacy, and over time results in the breakdown of communication. The worst situation in a relationship is when it becomes a habit of a child to lie.  The son, who constantly fibs, becomes entangled in his own tale of lies, he ultimately believes his lies as the gospel TRUTH. 

If you have been keeping secrets, deceived, and broke your Dad's confidence in you, acknowledgment and admission of a lie are your en route to start making amends. It is imperative that you recognize the wrongdoing. And keep in mind, that making apologies is not the time to rationalize your action, nor it is the time to do damage control.