Slip Of The Tongue?

An occasional slip of the tongue ... or a slip of the pen is normal and is quickly forgiven by the person listening or reading... that is ... if they even notice it. Even when they do, most people most of the time will recognize a slip of the tongue or pen for what it is and realize that what you meant to say or write ... is not what you did say or write.

Hibiscus of The Day: Cherry Apploasa

Hibiscus ID: Hibiscus Single Pink

Bought From: Canaan Flower Garden

Can be Seen on Mainstreet and Abe's Orchard

Idiom Of the Day

 

Let's start using idioms or idiomatic expressions when we write. When idioms are used, it adds color and texture to language by creating images that convey meanings beyond those of the individual words that make them up. An idiom can be very colorful and make a 'picture' in our minds. It also shows the writer's familiarity with English. When you want to make your writing sound more conversational, including idioms can give your writing a more relaxed tone.

Idioms allow us to say a lot with few words. Idioms amplify your messages in a way that draws your readers in and helps awaken their senses. It adds dynamism and character to otherwise stale writing. They make your writing less monotonous and your readers will think that you are smart and knowledgeable. All the while ... you only clothe your writing with elaborate idioms to create an impact... saying too much with less. 

To perfect your English, you really need to become confident in using idioms and knowing the difference between breaking a leg and pulling someone's leg. 

One reader asked however ... if I could think of any idiomatic expression that is related to the sense of entitlement. Here it is.

IDIOM: Living in the bubble

MEANING: Living a life that is isolated from the world. A person in a bubble doesn't listen to any ideas other than himself. He does not know the events around him because he is engrossed in a cloistered world he personally created. Only for himself.

ORIGIN: This phrase dates back to  1971 when David was born and was called the "Bubble Boy".  David had SCID otherwise known as severe combined immunodeficiency. His medical management was placing him in a special structure sterile plastic bubble to avoid complications.  He died at the age of 12.

USING IT IN A SENTENCE: Entitled people are living in a bubble ... they are engrossed in ideas he himself authored. He thinks he deserves a house, an inheritance, a land, and all the luxuries this world could offer without earning it. Everything is free! How convenient! Sana all.

Tips On How To Deal With Entitled People

 

Having high expectations is perfectly normal. It becomes abnormal though when the person afflicted with entitlement syndrome assumes that all roads are going his way and it is perfectly alright to bypass authority figures (police, boss or parents.) For instance ... if you see a mango tree in the neighborhood pregnant with deliciously looking yellow fruits ... it is just over the top for you to assume that your neighbor will give you a free pass in his orchard.  Convincing yourself na "marami naman yan ... hindi nila mauubos yan" is so self-serving and downright irresponsible. In the first place did you even ASK PERMISSION? That's the bad part.

If your parent allowed you to stay in a fully furnished home ... that doesn't translate that you can do whatever you want with it. If one day you thought it would be better to place an air conditioner in the living room, mature thinking dictates normal people will consult their parents and ask permission if that is alright with them to bore a hole in the house. If you assume "okay lang yan ... mahal ako niyan ... he will never say no to me" di ba napaka-ASSUMING mo tol? Much more if you sold the house. Suma total it boils down to one thing - malala na ang sakit mo hija - wala kang respeto sa magulang mo pati na sa sarili mo.

Because of their loose morals, entitled people always find themselves alone.  Friends avoid them like plagues and because of their bloated egos and sense of entitlement, it is not uncommon that even family walk away. They are surprised that they feel chronically discontented and dissatisfied. Their unreasonable expectations always make them hostile and they have that constant feeling they have a need that needs to be filled. If their needs were not met, then the feeling of being treated unfairly envelops their whole being.

There is no clear evidence of where this sense of entitlement comes from. But I t tell you ... dealing with them is annoying ... at times debilitating ... and putting up with them is one hell of a Ferris wheel ride. Try these simple tricks and tips.  It is not a surefire formula ... but hey ... there is no harm in trying.

1. Don't give everything to the child. Parents who are submissive and whose strength of will and strength of character cracks every time the child frets or plays temper tantrums whenever he wants something play a big factor in contributing to the person's entitlement issues. Children who have not experienced resistance and were never told NO will grow up as an adult thinking this is how the world operates. Crying is their desperate way of manipulating their parents into caving into their demands.

2. Starve them and don't feed their sense of entitlement - The rule of thumb is ... if you know you are capable of doing what they are asking ... say NO if it is ill-timed and is a bother and disruptive of your timetable. If you are free and don't mind doing it - fine ... say YES. If your sibling says, he wants to borrow your money ... if you have extra ... let him borrow ... but prepare to say no if it is inconvenient and your money is already allocated to something else.

3. Helping is only for a while. If you have a relative who is evicted from the house he rented ... it is okay to say yes if they are asking to use the unused room you have in your house ... rather than see them homeless and struggling in the streets. However, give them your boundaries ... and a timetable, and pre-arrange how much time you allowed them to stay until they become self-sufficient. Tell them your expectations ... that you are not cooking for them, that they have to share the water and electric bills, and that they have to follow curfew rules and regulations, etc.

4. Don't debate. And don't get caught having a verbal fisticuff with them.  Arguing open the doors for entitled persons to flex their bullying muscles on you.  Just keep quiet and leave.  Ignore their texts and DM's.  The silent treatment is an antidote to entitled persons.

5. Be firm, assertive, and strong-willed.  If you want to say NO own it and be sure you meant it. Don't throw in the towel and raise the white flag at the slightest sign that the person is showing entitlement. Say what you feel ... and it is only you who can bring that out.

6. Treat them matter-of-factly. Meaning don't show any signs of emotion. If you see them fret and fuss ... you show them calm. If you have done something to them, they expect you to make amends and apologize ... and when they did something to you ... they expect you to understand them. They always think they were treated unfairly ... 

To all entitled people ... for a change in your entitled heavy schedule check yourself in the mirror...  just be honest ... can't you see who is being unfair?

Abraham's One Liners

 

Comparing Mature and Immature Thinking In Entitlement

 

Entitled Husbands VS Entitled Wives

What happens in a household where there is an entitled husband and an entitled wife? Will there be a Clash of the Titans or a battle and a clash of egos?

I can't imagine a scenario where a husband believes his wife owed him something ... and the wife feels the same. The party that is giving the service or acts of assistance resents this. We expect fireworks and a feeling of angry displeasure on both sides ... they will feel mistreated or wronged ... and feel antipathy because they were forced to do something they didn't like.

They will have that mistaken notion that they were not loved, or that they are being used or taken advantage of ... or what they are getting from their spouse is conditional love ... only because of the things they can give them.

Take the husband for instance ... if one of the many reasons you marry is that you don't have to worry anymore about washing your clothes or cooking a meal for you ... that's a toxic expectation and an entitlement.  

If you are a wife and pursue a relationship with someone for the sole purpose of sharing his wealth or fame ... I also smell entitlement.

Are you the husband who expects changing the baby's dirty diapers and preparing milk formula is solely the work of the wife? Or are you the wife that expects the husband to bring home the moolah ... as you sit at home playing with your cellphones?

Both should work as a team ... and feeling entitled should never creep into your beds ... destroying your relationship and your marriage.