The Bad and The Worst

 

There is a scenario worse than that.

I repeat borrowing money is not bad.  What is worse is borrowing money, spend it ... with no intention of paying it back.

Facebook Friend Request or Smooth Dance Challenge

Alin ang mas matindi sa 1 and 2?  

1. Facebook ng Facebook ka sa bus tapos biglang  nag-friend request ang katabi mo?

2. O ... Tiktok ng Tiktok ka sa LRT ... tapos ginaya ni kuya ang aalog-alog na smooth dancing mo?

Asking The Value of X

Question: Ano ba ang mahirap: ang Algebra na ugali na ang hanapin si "X" ... o ang History na mahilig maghalungkat ng kahapon at nakaraan?

Answer:  If we are going to place these two High School subjects side by side and answer which of the two is hard in terms of how one treats somebody ... or a relationship ... I have to say both.

In Algebra ... we always try to find the VALUE of "X" and in the same token ... we are always taught to ask the question "Y". Why do we always try to find the VALUE of a person ... or anything for that matter ... and then halfway ... we surrendered and we retreated? And then we start asking why?

Well ... people always take everything for granted. We realize the VALUE of money ... until we are broke. We realized the VALUE of food ... when we are hungry. In Tawag Ng Tanghalan ... we realized the VALUE of .1 point when our favorite candidate lost the championship by a hairline .1 point. And in basketball ... in a do-or-die game, we realized the VALUE of that 1 second when a 3-point shot was fired ... and was not counted because the ball was released 1 second late.

We always take things with a cavalier attitude ... and we have a disdainful habit of ignoring important matters ... and the worst ... how come we always fail to appreciate the VALUE of someone ... when there is no more time to tell the person how much you thank him and how much you love him.

As you see ... we don't realize the VALUE of a gasul and the money that was used to buy it until it runs out. We don't value the VALUE of the money we borrowed until the aggrieved guy resorts to legal means to get back his money.  We don't realize the VALUE of work ... until we got fired or we are jobless.  We almost became suicidal or run amok when problems are so unbearable ... but how come we don't VALUE our health and our life ... look at what we we're doing ... we were hooked on drugs and we almost die because of tokhang?

And lastly ... why does it have to take the last minute before we realize the VALUE of our parents ... and when they are gone ... how we wished we can bargain a one-month extension just to be with them? 

And why does it have to have repentance come too late (just like the much-overused police' late arrival at the crime scene in teleseryes) ... when too much damage was created and the devastation was huge and there is no turning back. You see as we said a while ago ... too many Y's (why's) are being fired ... just so typical and common ... as life imitates high school's algebraic equations without us noticing it.)

When History Is Likened To Opening A Can of Worms

 Question: Ano ba ang mahirap: ang Algebra na ugali na ang hanapin si "X" ... o ang History na mahilig maghalungkat ng kahapon at nakaraan?

Answer:  If we are going to place these two High School subjects side by side and answer which of the two is hard in terms of how one treats somebody ... or a relationship ... I have to say both.

History on a positive note is saying hello to yesterday. It is an act of recalling the relationship ... especially with pleasure and nostalgia. And reminisce is a dreamy way of remembering the past when your swapping old memories and recollect the silly things you used to do.

History becomes negative when the relationship went pfffhhht and one of the parties has not moved on.  He dug up dirty linens in the past, their petty quarrels, their minor and insignificant arguments that often run berserk.  All he thinks is what went wrong when they have a good start. 

He was drowned in bitterness and all he can think is to resort to the blame game.  When things didn't go as planned it is difficult for him to resist the urge to blame especially when his emotions are running high.

In life, things often don’t go the way we expect. And when that happens, it is easier to play the blame game, that is, by blaming someone else for what happened, rather than taking responsibility for it. It takes less energy to point fingers at someone instead of admitting the truth to ourselves.

That blame game is addictive. No matter what level you are at in the game, you can never win. You need to just stop playing it and get back control of your life, your relationships, and your happiness.

Needs VS Wants

To understand what I am trying to drive at differentiating needs and wants ay  para maintiendihan ng lahat kung ano ang gagawin once confronted with a situation where several needs and wants arise. This will help you settle once and for all which needs are to be given the TOP PRIORITY.

First thing you need to know is the definition of terms. A NEED is something that is necessary to live and function.  A WANT is something that can improve your quality of life. Using these criteria, a need includes food, clothing, shelter, and medical care, while a want includes everything else. 

A need is something to give you a new lease of life while a want is something that the individual desire but would be able to live without.

Needs represent the necessities while wants indicate the person's wishes or fancy. Wants are not as important as needs, because a person can live without wants.

Needs include air, food, water, clothing, and shelter.  Wants are something we would like to have ... like Apple's iPhone or a beauty queen girlfriend that will drive everybody envious.

Sometimes needs and wants overlap ... like food for instance a person needs a cup of rice and a viand because he is hungry but it doesn't need to be a samgyupsal otherwise you are an OPPA ... a Filipino trapped in a Korean body. A thirsty person needs water but wanting mineral or spring water is too demanding for comfort. A homeless guy needs to clothe himself to give him warmth ... but demanding a Versace item is just over the top. All of us needs shelter and a roof on top of our head for protection from the elements ... and wanting a mansion on the hill ... is just plain delusional.

Apply all this in your life and you are good to go.  Confronted with a situation where your last P100 will be spent on a kilo of rice for your family's dinner ... or a service repair fee of the same amount to your electric fan (who suddenly chooses to die when everything is humid and hot) ... which need is your priority?

Your answer depends on what kind of priority-setter are you. Would you rather starve the whole night and enjoy the cool breeze from your newly repaired electric fan? Or would you rather have a full stomach ... and agonized with the searing heat?

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

What is Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs? They are the five levels of needs ...from the bottom of the hierarchy upwards.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs is a model for understanding the motivations of human behavior. It maps different motivations onto a pyramid, with each level representing a different human need. These include physiological needs, safety, love and belonging, esteem, and self-actualization.

The most basic level of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs covers physiological needs. These are the things that we simply cannot live without ... air, food, drink, warmth, sleep, and shelter. At the end of the hierarchy, all the needs are deficiency needs.  We need them because it is unpleasant for us when they are deficient.

Applying Maslow's hierarchy of needs in our life makes us understand that a person whose lowest-level needs have not been met (the needs at the bottom of the pyramid - the physiological needs) will act on that first before he attempts to attend to the other needs on top of the pyramid. It is our guide to priority setting - which one is deemed the most important, which need should be fulfilled first before attending to the other needs further up in the pyramid.

Simply put ... if you are confronted with the need for food or air, it doesn't make sense that you will attend to your need for love as the most important.  As they say ... you can live without love or companionship ... but you will die without food, water, or air.

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