Men's Issues

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In this nook, we are discussing purely men's business ... and 100 % men's concerns. But if you want to learn more about us ... you are welcome ... but don't say I didn't warn you.

In here, we call "a spade a spade" if the language sounds vulgar to you ... there is nothing you can do but look for the nearest fire exit ... and LEAVE! Jump if you can.

Have you ever heard of the words CASTRATION ANXIETY or CASTRATION COMPLEX? That was what the above image was all about.

In Sigmund Freud's psychosexual development, the Oedipal stage (also known as the phallic stage), which is between 3-6 years old, ... a male child experiences unconscious sexual desire for the parent of the opposite sex ... and resentment toward the parent of the same sex, viewing the same-sex parent as a rival for the other parent's affection. The term OEDIPAL ANXIETY is named after the Greek myth of Oedipus, who unknowingly killed his father and married his mother. 

When a male child's attitude is attendant hostility and views his father as a nemesis and competes with him for the mother's attention, the concomitant sense of rivalry shows its ugly fangs when the boy acts possessively toward his mother and tells the father not to touch her. Or it can be seen in this scenario when the male child insists on sleeping between his parents.

If the father is punitive and jokes a lot about cutting his penis off or his testicles off ... as a penalty for being a bad boy ... and the child takes the joke as a form of punishment ... an overwhelming fear of damage to ... or a loss of ... a penis may be developed in this stage. Unconscious feelings and fantasies of being deprived of the phallus can start emerging here.

Some experts call this anxiety "a fear of being cut off". It refers to the fear of emasculation in both a literal and metaphorical sense.

If a male child continues to experience the same fear and anxiety as he gets old (when he should have outgrown it ... or he should have moved on to the next phase of development) ... it is a CARRIED OVER BEHAVIOR. 

Some people call it FIXATION. A fixation on this complex means the individual has not successfully moved past this fear and desire, resulting in some aberrant behaviors.

If there is persistence in the appearance of the feared situation even in the latter stages of life, a FIXATED child will have these CARRY OVER BEHAVIORS (any rocket scientist worth his salt can readily figure out that the behavior the person is exhibiting is residue coming from unresolved conflicts from the Oedipal or Phallic stage.

Experts thought that the only way to resolve the Oedipal complex (and the Electra complex for females) to further move on in the next ladder or stage of psychosexual development ... is for the child to identify with the same sex parent (a son to his father and a daughter to his mother) and make them their role models.

Any aberration in the process ... the possibility that the below-mentioned scenario may emerge and start its ugly toll.

-Fear of Being Cut off - The "fear of being cut off" can refer to fear of emotional abandonment ... fear of being alone ... fear of death, fear of leaving a family for a job offer abroad, fear of going to college because he will be separated from the family ... fear of moving to another country ... etc.

-Fear of Missing Out (FOMO) - The fear that an exciting event is happening and he is not a part of it. The fear that others are having a rewarding married life and a successful business venture... and he was left out in the cold. An insecurity that all his classmates are working abroad, and he is still struggling to make both ends meet in his home turf.

-Fear of social rejection - The fear of being socially snubbed and ignored.  The fear of being tagged ang labelled.  Fear of being the black sheep in the family.  Fear of being an outcast of society.

-Fear of losing control - The fear of not being able to function independently, like when he is young. The fear of not being able to earn like he used to. The fear of being a burden to family ...the fear of getting sick ... and the fear of death ... and the second life.

-Fear of medical procedures - Trypanophobia or fear of needles ... Tomophobia - or fear of having surgeries. How are these related to fear of being cut off? Simple ... surgical procedures to proceed need to CUT or PIERCE. Like a diabetic patient being cut of his leg ... or a young woman separated from her uterus.