How To Aceept Defeat ala Kathryn

 

Question: What did Kathryn Bernardo do that made her pass this separation test with flying colors?

Answer: I don't really know ... but I have these observations.

After several attempts to untie the knot (after similar repeated incidents of the alleged illicit affairs), Kathryn admitted defeat ... and cut through the 11 years of the relationship with a knife.

Accepting defeat is Kathryn's FIRST step ... learning from it is the obvious SECOND step. And I hope Kathryn can follow through and make her THIRD step - by applying the tough lessons she learned from the relationship going forward.

Remember we can't always win in life ... so it is a must that we always have a mind that thinks and sees that every loss is not a defeat. Yes, the pain will always be there ... but would rather be in a situation where you are in constant hurt because you allowed yourself to be sucked into a relationship that doesn't value your worth ... or a relationship that abuses you. Would you rather be in a relationship where the torture and the gnawing ache seemed FOREVER ... because you refused to LET GO and MOVED ON?

With a little self-trust, persistence, and dedication ... I know the pain will ease up a bit as Kathryn tries to heal up. It is a little comforting to know that she can learn more from her losses than wins ... so as Kathryn did, she looked at her decision to untie the knot more as OPPORTUNITIES rather than considering them BLEMISHES.

What Kathryn did was too basic ... some say too elementary. Here is what I thought was her way of accepting defeat ... but made her look like a WINNER.

1. She let go and moved on without hesitation

2. She had a change of heart ... and thought of putting herself first instead of wallowing in the what-ifs.

3. She tried to see things from different points of view and angles ... and discovered and developed a new mindset.

4. She is kind and generous. She is not the person who is rude or angry about losing. She is a "good sport".

5. She did not allow the break-up to eat her alive and consume her. We did not see her rant and throw invectives as an aggrieved party.

6. She definitely learned her lessons and put them wisely in positive use.

7. She vowed she would not repeat the same mistakes and that she would be changed for the better.

That simple.