Responding To Netizen's Comment

Netizen: I am wondering why there are people who are not aware that they have Personality Disorders. Can't they see the obvious ... and not wonder why they are behaving so badly?

Response: The obvious reason for this lack of awareness is that the person doesn't know the thin line separating normal from abnormal.  A person may have volatile anger and is ready to explode anytime regardless of whether neighbors will hear or not. After the anger episode, he will just dismiss it as nothing ... and maybe rationalized it as he was just venting out his emotions.

Anger can be a positive and useful emotion if it is expressed appropriately. The clearest yardstick that your anger is healthy is when the morning after you feel better ... and you feel you are a new person.  And the other person (who is the object of anger) felt the same way too.

Anger becomes unhealthy when it entices someone to hurt and generates thoughts of getting even ... or worse ... violence and revenge. When somebody shows infantile temper tantrums and makes verbal arguments that end up in yelling or screaming, or threatening others ... and segue on physically assaulting people or animals with weapons are classic examples.

The second reason for this lack of awareness is that the person simply doesn't know there is a better way of thinking ... feeling or behaving. Instead of using "fire against fire" when the anger is at crescendo ... (or he uses an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth mantra) ... it is obvious he is not aware there are alternative ways to deal with the problem in a professional and mature way possible.

And third, some people lack self-awareness that they have a personality problem partly because those who have them don't see their symptoms as something they will worry about.

Someone with a lack of self-awareness is usually not willing to listen to what others have to say about their behavior at home, at work, or in relationships. They tend to view feedback as criticism, especially if they are insecure, have low self-esteem, or think they're beyond reproach.