Some stray Thoughts on The Waiter Controversy

We are still on the waiter issue. Did it occur to you that they are CONFUSED themselves seeing you CONFUSED.

Naisip ninyo ba na nagaalangan din sila? Kung noong ginamit niya ay SIR ... may nagagalit. Baka kung ginamit niya ay MA'AM ... may magagalit rin.

Sala sa INIT ... sala sa lamig!

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"Ang ganda-ganda ko naman para tawaging SIR."

Beauty is relative. Each one of us has his own perception of beauty.  Sabi naman ng iba ... Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

To make it blunt: Kung gandangganda ka sa sarili mo ... don't expect that everybody will share the same opinion.

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Sabi ng isang netizen: "Baka ang tingin na niya sa sarili ay si BARBIE siya?

At sinagot naman ng isa: He is still a KEN.

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"Bago kayo maghate sa akin ... look what I have achieved ..." Ikaw pa talaga magisa-isa ng achievements mo? Too self-serving.

Sabi nga ng isang SUCCESSFUL na kaibigan ... you don't brag about your achievements. Nakikita yan ng tao. 

Let SUCCESS speak for itself.

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The image above has become ICONIC.  Ang waiter ay parang erring student na pinatawag sa principals office at winawarnigan.

Kulang na lang padipahin ang kamay sa harap ng masungit na head-teacher.

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And while we are at it ... hindi ba kayo nagtatanong kung bakit ginamit ni Maam na extension ng kanyang classroom ang isang restaurant?

At okey lang ba sa owner ng restaurant na gawing playground ni Maam ang kanyang negosyo? For sure nalugi siya nang araw na iyon.

Sino ba naman ganahan kumain eh may nakahandusay na guidance counsellor venting out his frustrations sa lalaki.

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It just doesn't feel right the owner and the supervisor of the restaurant ENABLING a vengeful friend. Imagine ginawa nang circus ang negosyo okey pa rin kay friend?

And what's this we read that some quarters are demanding a boycott of this place?

See the DOMINO EFFECT starts.

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Kailangan na ring manindigan ng owner. Wala ba siyang yagbols para malaman ang tama at mali?

In the sea ng masasakit na salita sa internet ni isang paliwanag o salita mula sa kanila ... wala?

Mas matimbang pa ba ang friendship ... o mag-unfriend  na sila dahil hinihila na ang negosyo sa kankongan.

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A STRAIGHT man being taunted by a G_Y man at this day and age?

Iba talaga ang magawa ng pera.  When money TALKS everyboody LISTENS!

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A lot of job offers are floating if the waiter decides to resign. Well-meaning unknowns who have bigger hearts are willing to extend their generosity  ... domestic man or abroad.

Yan ang tunay na diwa ng Kristiyanismo. Makonsiyensiya man sana ang mga taong hambog na marami nga silang na-achieve pero SALAT naman sa gandang asal.

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Kaladkaren take: "Sometimes I still get called SIR ... but I know how to choose my battles. When this happen ... I just smile ... be the bigger person and let it pass."

Yes it is okay to EDUCATE ... not HUMILIATE!

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What Is Trending?

What is trending? One LGBT writer is in the eye of the storm after he made a waiter stand for 2 hours all because he was addressed as SIR. He was fighting for gender sensitivity ... but alas it did not go well with the netizens. We intentionally erased his name and picture to protect his identity. Let us listen to his story.

What do you think guys?

Responding to Netizen's Comment

 

What a strong word that was. Was it really to EDUCATE ... or to PONTIFICATE?

My friend showed me what is trending now and she wants my unsolicited opinion about the situation. She even navigated to the source of trouble and even gave me images needed for whatever reaction I would make. Other netizens also egged on and encouraged me to do the same.

Before I start ... let me make it clear: hindi po kami nakikisawsaw ... at hindi po namin ito ginagawa to up our blog's popularity and traffic. We saw a situation here a fight between good and evil ... so basta kung sino ang underdog ... at sino ang inaapi doon tayo. ... So this is our CAUSE today.

When someone crosses the line and humiliates someone, just because they were misgendered ... and goes to the extent of calling the supervisor ... threatening to call the owner of the restaurant ... or making someone stand for hours and educate him with a topic too alien-sounding for him to comprehend ... that is a grandiose display of exaggerated self-importance at its finest. The guy has ENTITLEMENTS ISSUES.

Having delusions of grandeur is having an extraordinary belief that one is famous, omnipotent, wealthy, successful, or otherwise ... very powerful. I am not saying that the guy has this but all indications point that he has a bloated self-image. Napaka ENTITLED naman niya. Sasabihin ba naman "ang ganda ganda ko naman para tawaging SIR ... dapat sa mga waiter na walang common sense matanggal sa trabaho."

At para pa syang naghahamon ng away sa mga netizens at pinangalandakan pa kung ano ang kanyang inabot sa kanyang buhay. Saying stuff like: "Ang naiinggit pikit ..." is infuriating and revolting. For one ... ano ba ang pakialam ng mga taong hindi naman nakakilala sa kanya sa kung among yaman at ano meron siya? In our book... the yardstick to call one successful is not through material possessions or your status in society ... it is how well you treat people ... hindi mapaghamak at hindi nananapak.

Based on how the guy looks in his close-up photos in other blogs ... I couldn't fault the waiter for calling him SIR ... I don't blame him at all. If I were the waiter serving the guy ... I would be more inclined to address him Sir than Ma'am.

The waiter is not an erring staff (that's what he calls him) ... he is not an erring waiter at all ... in the truest sense of the word. Just because he addresses him Sir gives anyone the green light to call him ERRANT? He calls him SIR because that's how he perceives the guy. It was an innocent, respectful, and honest mistake ... but TSWWTBCM (The Sir who wants to be called Ma'am) took that as an opportunity to start firing ammunition and educate the poor guy with gender sensitivity mumbo-jumbo. How? ... by making him stand in front of him unmindful of the negative reactions from onlookers and other customers. TSWWTBCM wanted to show the whole world that he was powerful and had connections.

He used scare tactics ... and name-dropping the owner of the restaurant is one of them. Hearing that for sure sends shivers down the waiter's spine. No wonder the waiter stood there for hours like a puppet to his master because he dreaded he might lose his job and if push came to shove ... there is a chance he will be out in the street. I believe even the true-blue members of LGBT will not support TSWWTBCM on this one.

And there is still another issue ... he claimed he was a friend of the owner. Did he really believe even for one second that the owner would side with him even though everyone knows who is the abuser and who is the victim? And did he realize how costly this furor brings to the restaurant and his friend?

TSWWTBCM wants to fight discrimination and encourage gender sensitivity ... how about being sensitive to the kid who fears he will be trooping the streets again in search of a job? How about having a heart for thinking what will happen to this kid if the owner plays in cahoots with him and his caprices and fires him without warning?

Was calling him SIR that heinous and wicked offense that
commensurate to that kind of humiliation and degradation?

TSWWTBCM said it all "I am used to being misgendered" ... my students call me SIR and my nephews and nieces call me uncle ... so what's the problem then eh ganoon naman pala ang tawag sa iyo. Ano ang pagkaiba ng SIR galing sa mga estudyante mo ... at ang SIR galing sa waiter? And what is the big deal? What makes it different this time that gets your ire? There are just a lot of inconsistencies and loopholes in the script.

Ah, I know now. He blows his horns that's why ... and he created a scene. And now in the court of public opinion, it looked like the prospect that his sorority sisters backing him up looks grim and dim. And he dares to recommend gender sensitivity be included when hiring employees? That's a tall order, SIR. We are not hate-mongers by the way (the term you describe the person who started this whole brouhaha)... I am one of those persons who speak my mind out and who call a spade ... a spade when I see one.

Wait ... there is a solution to your problem ... I know I can think of one for you. Every time you go shopping or enter a restaurant don't forget a big nametag hanging on your neck ... one that reads: "Maam po ako."

JUst Hypnotizing

 

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