Have You Experience Ambivalence?

Ano ba yan? Para sa mga Dutertards ... it is just a pity na AMBIVALENCE ang nararamdaman nila ngayon sa sitwasyon ng kanilang si Tatay Digong.

Ambivalence ... ano yon? First of all ... ipaliwanag muna natin kung ano ito ... para magkaliwanagan.

I recall one psychiatric doctor, with whom we were affiliated at Moustashpha Homiyat, who did a good job explaining what it was all about. 

Ambivalence is when a person or a group of persons has MIXED, often OPPOSING or CONTRASTING feelings or thoughts towards someone.

To the uninformed ... they often asked: "Is it possible that a person will have co-existing opposite and contradictory emotions? Yes na yes ang sagot diyan ... it is possible. Simultaneously at sabay itong nangyayari. Hindi paisa-isa or separately.

Kaya nga di ba may old song na Never, Never, Never si Shirley Bassey capturing the intense, contradictory feelings of loving someone despite the pain he gave, with lyrics that run..."I LOVE you ... HATE you ... love you, hate you, but I want you till the world stops turning ... "I never, never, never want to be in love with anyone .... but you." 

This song perfectly describes that push-and-pull, inescapable love where she feels it is impossible to live with him ... but can't live without him either.

In the flood control project scams, Pinoys felt AMBIVALENT about their government, too. With the Trillion Peso March, one feeling tone is that they want change pronto, and they want justice by putting the "kurakots" in jail. Simultaneously, they also experience an opposing/contrasting feeling, and that is, they fear the outcome - that BBM is just too weak to match the imminent threats of the destabilization.

Stated another way, ambivalence is the experience of having an attitude towards someone that contains both positively and negatively valenced components.

This is the kind of ambivalence the DDS populace felt.

On one hand is the positive feeling, where all of them wish he could be brought home so he can have the pink of health.

On the other hand is the negative feeling ... they also wish (under the present circumstances) he would be diagnosed cognitively impaired ... perhaps mentally incapacitated, so ICC could cool off its steam and decide the ex-president needs a breather - and in a jiffy let him pack his bags and jet-ski his way home.

Well, reality bites ... and ICC doesn't care less.  Whether Tatay Digong is in a tip-top shape ... and in excellent condition ... or he has deteriorated and is unfit to defend himself in court ... PRRD will stay in prison ... where he belongs.

End of discussion.

No One Is Around

Bakit parang hindi na tayo makaraos sa hirap ng buhay?

Ang problema kasi ipinanganak tayong naghihikahos. Gusto man itago ng ating parents ang kanilang mga karanasan pati na ang kanilang mga masakit na hamon at dagok ng buhay ... pero nakita pa rin natin ito first hand and it was served to us in full color and in Cine Vision pa man din.

Sad to say ... sa ating murang kamalayan ... kahit hindi natin maintiendihan yon ... ang first thing na natunan natin sa kanila is mainly survival at kahirapan ... at yong kanilang araw- araw na pagpupunyagi.

Walang silang panahon sa atin ... hindi dahil gusto nila ito . Priority lang kasi nila yong kumita ng konti mairaos lang ang mga dapat unahin at pangangailangan para sa isang buong araw.

We don't have a parent present who has time para turuan tayo na huwag mangutang kung hindi naman kailangan.  Na huwag tayo manghiram ng pera kung wala namang tayong means and ways na mabayaran ito. 

Wala man lang  pumapayo sa atin na huwag tayong mainggit sa kung ano ang cellphone ng mga kaibigan natin. Na huwag pilitin ang ating sarili na maabot ang mga imposibling bagay na hindi naman tugma sa estado ng ating buhay ... pagkatapos ng lahat malibing lang tayo sa utang at tago ng tago sa naniningil?

Wala man lang nagturo sa atin how to set healthy boundaries ...and no one has ever told us that yes we can say NO to somebody na gusto ring manhiram ng pera ... without experiencing that sickening feeling of guilt ... or feeling selfish and insensitive to help another tired soul.

No one has time to explain to us that yes ... you can choose to leave a relationship even if you still love the person. Yes, you can walk away from a love that hurts ... because staying destroys your well-being more than leaving.

Nobody has shown us the importance of prioritizing self-love and personal peace. Nobody has educated us to protect ourselves from further damage and make time and space for a healthier love ... even though leaving tears our hearts out and break our souls.

We feel swamped and inundated... entertaining the flood of questions, why we feel this unusual idea that we are BROKEN when in reality ... we were never taught the fundamentals of being WHOLE in the first place!

Overthinking and Over Analyzing

To define OVERTHINKING, in a humorous context and sense, is when your brain turns a simple "yes/no" question into a six-year Batang Quiapo teleserye, creating a convoluted worst-case-scenario storyline, and wonders if the people will form a queue to patronize it.

Then you created problems from thin air, getting stuck in "what if" loops, and get drowned in hypotheticals that sound so unreal until you reach the ANALYSIS PARALYSIS plateau, and you throw your hands in the air, almost giving up.

>>>>>>>>>

Analysis paralysis is a state where a person is over-analyzing or overthinking thoroughly a situation to the point of suffocation. This will make the person unable to reach a decision, and no plans of action were made.

Overthinking and overanalyzing make the person create an excessive number of choices (the more the merrier pero hindinaman dapat ) dahil nakakatakot din pag maraming ang mapagpilian because it can create fear that he might choose the wrong one. This can cause a person to become stuck, unable to move sa kumunoy ng kanyang kabaliwan.

>>>>>>>>>>

I have one funny example of people who overthink (sometimes they are called EXPERT ANALYSTS). By the way, are they really called experts, or are they the CRAZY ANALYSTS?

Overthinking takes its toll when you try to comb through the islands from Aparri to Jolo to find a good lawyer who will defend you in your jaywalking case. You research the lawyers far and wide ... and you scrutinize their personal and professional qualifications ... their expertise and experience ... their reputation and track record. Don't you think that's over-the-top preparation for a jaywalking offense?

>>>>>>>>>>>

Overthinking is at its worst when you OVERTHINK ... that you are OVER-THINKING.

>>>>>>>>>>

When someone overthinks ... he worries about his FUTURE.

In the same vein, he ruminates about the PAST ... and overthinking makes it difficult for him as the two time frames clash with each other, making him paralyzed and unable to decide.

>>>>>>>>>>

This is how overtinking operates.

When the other half of your brain says LET IT GO ... the other half says no ...I WILL HANG ON and let me overthink this (we don't know how long ... lest he might regret it if he decides quick).

>> >>>>>>>>>

The overthinker has two frames of mind.

1. He is always in trepidation, fussing about the little details.

2. And he always worries about not-so-important things.

>>>>>>>>>>>

Overthinking is like a rocking chair.

You can sit on it, fasten your seatbelt, but you won't enjoy the ride. It doesn't get you anywhere ... or help you progress or succeed in any way.

>>>>>>>>>>>

Overthinking too much ... is a disease.

You dont have to see how the ESCALATOR works. All you need is to make ... that first step and move! See, using the escalator is not bad and hard enough.

>>>>>>>>>>>

Have Political Memes All Gone To The Dogs?

Have political memes all gone to the dogs? I was hesitating whether I am going to make a review about the meme and develop this post

LITERALLY, all gone to the dogs means decline or deterioration, or has changed to a much worse condition. Or to become much worse in quality and character.

METAPHORICALLY, it means the situation has taken a distinct turn for the worse.

I saw this meme today, and my post title uses a dog in it ... because the meme has a dog in it too. No pun intended.

So the operative question is: had the meme really all gone to the dogs? It all depends on who looks at it.

A DDS may look at it as it was done in poor taste. How so? A meme about bodily functions is considered vulgar, uncultured, and socially inappropriate in mature or formal settings.

The author and their supporters on the side of the spectrum may find it, under the circumstances, the best interpretation of the way they see the situation as it is.

A meme is defined as an amusing or interesting image  such as a captioned picture or video) or genre of items that is spread widely online, especially through social media.

However, meme makers should know the thin line that separates AMUSING and OFFENSIVE memes. I understand where the author is coming from, and I know the intent was just to inject humor.

The art of humor, however, relies heavily on the context and who the joke was shared with.

If someone is offended, regardless of intent, an apology is warranted.

Play With Words

Friend, pasensiya ka na ... pero I have to call you out on this. Marami nang bloopers ang nangyari to you in person pati na rin sa internet.

I am trying to understand you... Però noong naglaro tayo to give words ending in IQUE may napansin ako. After we gather the words ... we wrote it on the blackboard tapos binasa mo. Is this the first time you've heard the word' kaya ganon'?  Anyway:

Basa mo sa PANIQUE ... paniki.

Ng OBLIQUE ... obliki

Ng UNIQUE ... uniki

Ng BOUTIQUE ... butiki

Ng PIQUE ... piki

Ng MAGNIFIQUE ... magnipiki

Ng MARTINIQUE ... martiniki

Ng MOZAMBIQUE ... mozambiki

Muntik na akong nahulog sa aking upoan dahil iniba mo ang basa mo: Ng ANTIQUE (a province in Panay) ay Antik? 

Later on, Yong Isang town sa Aklan na IBAJAY (pronounced as Ibahay) basa mo ay (iba-jay) as in Jay Manalo?

Nagpapatawa ka ba ... or sinasadya mo? 

Both sabi niya. Yon pala eh. Now I know ... kaya mga tol moral lesson of the day: hinay hinay lang tayo sa paghusga. The sad thing was: hindi ko pa talaga kilala ng lubusan ang kaibigan ko. Binigla niya ako doon ha?

"Looks can be deceiving". For instance, the person's manner of talking the first time you hear them may not be their true self, their nature ... their character ... or quality, urging caution against judging solely by first impressions. What seems good might be bad and vice versa. 

It's a warning that reality can be very different from how it looks, similar to the saying, "You can't judge the book by its cover."

Pageant Result: Miss Glamour Look International 2025

The winners of Miss Glamour Look International from left to right: Tessa de Boer - Netherlands Fourth Runner Up, Margaret Arego- Kenya - First Runner Up, Kiana Crystal - Canada - Miss Glamour Look International 2025- Winner, Trisha Jennings - USA- Second Runner Up, Karianne Raab - Philippines - Third Runner Up. The pageant was held last December 7, 2025.

Pageant Result : Man Hot Star International 2025

The winners of Man Hot Star 2025 from left to right: Matt Gregorio - Philippines - Second Runner Up, Bo Seung Hyeok - Korea - Man Hot Star International 2025 - Winner, Narongwit Oranan - Thailand - First Runner Up.  The pageant was held at Qorld House in Pattaya, Thailand last December 5, 2025.